Developing a strong personality is better late than never. Ben Underwood: the boy who "saw" with his ears

It's easy enough to imagine a strong person. Powerful physique, large muscles, confident look. But do these signs always prove true strength? And what is this inner strength about which you can hear very often? Does it match the imposing appearance? Can a physically less developed person be stronger than his superior opponent? In what cases is the inner strength of a person manifested? Is it possible to develop it, or is it an innate quality that is inherited? Let's try to understand this issue.

What is inner strength?

Inner strength is the strength of the spirit, the totality volitional qualities to overcome various difficulties in life. Accordingly, it manifests itself in stressful cases, when a person, feeling that he cannot control the situation, still continues to act “in character”.

This quality literally endows people with superhuman abilities, allowing them to pass where even two-meter bouncers will break. Inner strength does not depend on age, gender or other parameters of a person.

It can manifest itself in anyone, the main thing is not to suppress it. The main factors that suppress the development of internal strength can be considered bad habits, complexes, negative mood, stress, fears, resentment, worries and fatigue.

How does inner strength come about?

The inner strength of a person does not depend on his external power, but does not exclude it either. After all, for any power, there is always a greater power. And in the event of a collision with it, it is precisely the inner strength that manifests itself.

Of course, it is easier to defeat a weaker opponent. But we all know examples when a small but “spiritual” person emerges victorious from a skirmish with someone who is clearly superior in size. Why is this happening? Apparently he is more confident in himself and this confidence is transferred to the enemy, literally disarming him. According to the principle of the textbook Moska, which strikes terror into all local elephants.

There are five main components that make up the inner strength of a person:

• The strength of the spirit is the core of the personality;
• Life energy is all that is necessary for life;
• Willpower is an internal reserve that opens up during times of difficulty;
• Self-control - the ability to control your body and thoughts;
• Psychic energy - emotional and mental stability.

Their interaction determines how strong a person will be in a given situation, therefore it is very important to pay attention to the development of each of these components.

Strength of mind- the ability to take responsibility for your life on yourself. It determines the determination of a person, his character and assertiveness. It develops both through physical self-development and spiritual self-improvement.

Vital energy implies the necessary resources for activity. All processes occurring in the body require energy. It is replenished with nutrients that we consume. After all, we are what we eat.

Strength of will- the ability to move towards the intended goal, despite all the obstacles and difficulties. It is strengthened in the fight against its weaknesses, fears and stereotypes. Daily work on yourself is the best hardening of your strong-willed qualities.

self control allows you to not lose control in any situation. Inner strength is based on inner peace and coolness. It is necessary to develop the ability of self-control by leaving the zone of your inner comfort. After all, this quality manifests itself only in unusual situations.

Psychic Energy- the emotional stability of a person, his ability to control his psyche, especially its darkest corners. Strengthening the mind is no less important than exercises to develop strength, endurance or agility.

Secrets of Inner Strength

Like any other human quality, inner strength can be trained and developed. Its nature and causes of manifestation should be understood. Simple Rules tempering character are given below:

• Do not avoid difficulties, but boldly face them;
• Learn to control your emotions;
• Overcome fear and not panic;
• Tune in a positive way, be an optimist;
• Believe in your "second wind";
• Learn to make strong-willed decisions;
• Fight laziness in all its manifestations;
• Avoid communication with "energy vampires" and manipulators;
• Do not take "to heart" stress factors;
• Pay attention to proper rest and recuperation.

If you strictly follow these rules, then the internal reserves of the body will always be in combat readiness, thereby increasing the ability of a person to endure difficulties and failures.

The bulk of the points does not need explanation, we argue only the question of "second wind" and "energy vampires".

The fact is that the capabilities of the human body and mind have not yet been fully explored. Therefore, being in difficult situation, a person is able to demonstrate skills that even Olympic champions in various types sports. The inner strength manifests itself approximately at the stage when the “first wind” closes and the “second wind” is about to open.

What does this mean? The internal reserves of the body, which are included when all the usual arguments have been exhausted. Their nature is not fully understood, but the fact of existence is obvious. That is why it is important to know that the “second wind” is inherent in every person and in case of certain conditions it will definitely come to the rescue.

There is also no unequivocal scientific point of view regarding "energy vampires", which, however, does not prevent such people from doing their "dark" deeds. Really, it's just energy. certain people does not fit well, which causes some discomfort.

In addition, there are individuals who like to provoke negativity in others, as if fueled by their emotional energy. It is difficult to judge how true or fiction it is, but if there is a person in the environment with whom it is unpleasant to communicate or even be in the same territory, then it is better not to do this. The inner voice rarely deceives and its advice should be heeded.

As mentioned earlier, an important component of a person's inner strength is a positive attitude and thinking. Psychologists recommend clearly presenting yourself as a winner.

For example, imagine yourself with a goblet in your hand, standing on a pedestal. You should remember the sensations that appear at such a moment, and remind yourself of them in situations where your hands begin to fall. The fact is that everything in the body is interconnected. We smile in response to the production of "hormones of happiness" in the blood.

What prevents the process from starting in the opposite direction. And if someone tries even by an effort of will to “pull” a smile on his face and keep it for a while, the body may in response begin to produce the same hormones, raising the mood. Similarly, the euphoria of success. If you remember these feelings, you can take a break from difficulties for a while and mobilize your internal reserves.

The inner strength of a person cannot be measured or analyzed. It arises as a result of the action of stress factors and subsides during periods of stability and comfort. There is inner strength in each of us, it's just that someone has it better developed. You can develop this quality in yourself through training and self-development. The main thing is to always believe in yourself and your strengths, and also not to forget that a person is capable of much if he wants to.

If strength is in truth, then whoever is stronger is right.

(Folk gangster wisdom)

What is the psychological strength of a person? How is it defined? The question of strength is asked by any person who is interested in managing this world, in influencing people, in changing something around him and in his life in general. Have you ever wondered why it is so unfairly arranged - some have this gift, others do not, some want to obey, others not so much, some can have an impact, others try to do it this way - which becomes ridiculous. As a child, if you remember, all the boys dream of possessing tremendous strength in order to win any fight, scatter any enemies, not be afraid of anyone, achieve everything, and be respected in the team. Personally, at a young age, I envied, oddly enough, a girl, only a special, very strong girl named Pippi Longstocking, who had absolutely unprecedented abilities and, on occasion, demonstrated miracles that no weightlifter in the world dreamed of. For example, she threw villains to the tops of trees, held cars by the bumper with her hands, pulled ships out of the sea onto the shore, and performed similar feats. With age comes the understanding that physical strength in this world can no longer solve all the issues - you need another strength, internal, personal.

What happens in our communication in life? When meeting a person, we intuitively, subconsciously, evaluate him and compare our personal strength with his strength. And, as a result of this comparison, we build relationships. If intuition tells us that he is stronger, relationships are built with the so-called "add-on from below." That is, we recognize the supremacy of a person, allow him to teach us life, with respect and listen to his opinion. If we feel that we ourselves are stronger than a partner, then relationships are more likely to be built with the so-called "extension from above." That is, we ourselves subconsciously feel more important, express our opinion more, less value we attach to his opinion, we allow ourselves to teach him life and “lead our hands” in his direction. Well, the third possible variant, when the forces are approximately equal, then relations are built "with an extension on an equal footing." It is not clear who controls whom, who controls whom, then you are me, then I am you, the relationship is like "friend - friend." It is clear that this scheme of three relationship options is somewhat simplified, in life it can be more and more difficult, but the essence is just that. It is psychological strength that makes us submit or obey, listen or obey, convince or convince. It is she who allows you to win negotiations, psychological fights, conflicts, makes you respect your opinion and achieve success in society. And this strength is more important than all the rest of the physical, because it is it that allows you to work miracles.

The question is what is psychological power and how to increase it? When I ask the participants this question - what is psychological strength and how to define this concept in one exhaustive phrase, then immediately smart people usually find a range of answers. For example, it's confidence, some say. Yes, confidence good quality, but this is not a synonym for psychological strength, but rather a consequence, a concomitant quality. It is incorrect to put an equal sign between the concepts of strength and confidence. Confidence is rather a consequence of strength. Another option is purposefulness. It is also a concomitant quality, a consequence of strength, but not the same thing. Often called the ability to be happy, not to give up in the face of difficulties, "to take a hit" - also wonderful qualities, but they also do not exhaust the concept of strength and do not define it. As a rule, the participants receive only consequences and associations on the inner strength, but not the definition itself.

Of course, you remember that this sacred question is what is the power, brother? - Bodrov Jr. was also tormented in the films "Brother-1", "Brother-2". And he went around and pestered everyone with it, even foreigners:

- Here you are, a German, you say, the city is a force, and what a force is here, everyone is weak here ...

- The city is an evil force...

And that's where the joke came from.

Bodrov Jr. is sitting in the office of an American businessman, a dead man is lying nearby American businessman, they drink vodka, play chess and Bodrov Jr. says:

- Tell me, American, what is the strength? Do you think money is power? Here is the brother, he says, in money ... But the force, it is in newtons !!!

Indeed, in order to define this concept, the scientific Oh, if you want, you need to turn to the origins - where the legs grow from. And they grow from classical physics, I hope there will be excellent students among readers. Let's remember first the definition of physical strength, and then move on to psychological strength. How the concept of "physical strength" was defined in grade 7 high school? That's right, the magical and unforgettable formula "f equals m times a" - force equals mass times acceleration. Remember, in textbooks, physics liked to push cubes, and so, if one cube pushes another from a place, then the physical force of the first could be determined from the mass and acceleration of the second, and it was measured, indeed, in newtons. In human terms, physical strength is the ability of an object to do work on another object. Work is movement in space. Once again, we rely on this definition: "Physical strength is the ability of an object to perform work on another object."

And now, based on this definition, now, let's transfer it to the world of people. Then - by analogy, what is already "psychological strength"? Try to find the definition yourself from here and compare with the correct answer. For the lazy, the correct answer will follow now. Psychological strength is the ability of a person to work on people, including himself, since you are also a person. Only under work in the world of people are understood all three types of influence. The first type, influence on consciousness - that is, the ability to convince, inspire, change values ​​​​to a person, teach, make it clear, "set the brain", finally. The second type, the influence on the emotional world of a person, is the ability to create a new emotion for him, to remove an extra old one, to shake feelings, to influence the spiritual, emotional and sensory world of a person. And thirdly, the influence on the will of a person is the ability to induce to action, to push against inaction, the ability to make a person move in body and mind, or, conversely, stop before an abyss.

And, if all this is taken into account, we get such a definition.

Psychological strength is the ability of a person to influence people, including himself.

What does it mean to influence yourself? All three types of influence, on consciousness, on emotions, on will, only in relation to oneself. Sometime to straighten your brains and change values, sometime to cope with your feelings, sometime to force yourself to do what you don’t want, but you need to. Self influence is special case influence on people in general, moreover, not knowing how to manage oneself, it is impossible to adequately manage other people. And by the way a person manages himself, it is quite possible to judge his strength. The simplest test on personal strength - how long do you get out of bed in the morning? Self-management is closest to the concept of willpower, with the help of strong-willed qualities a person influences his lazy nature.

The basis of this ability to influence is a high and independent self-esteem of the individual. Those. degree of self-love, degree of self-respect, degree of self-acceptance. High enough - allowing you to live comfortably among other people and feel worthy, as an equal among equals (and in some ways even higher). Independent - means stable, allowing not to lose self-respect in the negative assessment of others and not falling in case of failures. Self-esteem is the core of personal strength; without it, strength, figuratively speaking, loses its backbone and falls apart.

Another very important point. The ability to influence is a kind of opportunity, an internal quality, and one must be able to present it, that is, to show it externally. Otherwise, this force will remain in potential, unmanifested and imperceptible to the environment. There is always an inside and an outside, and so it is with force. Strength is the inner core of a person, but to make people feel this strength is the second, external task.

Imagine that you are the world boxing champion. You have a huge potential and opportunities for forceful influence on hooligan elements in the night alley. But only you and your surroundings know that you are a cool master. The punks don’t know this yet, and you are forced to show them your strength and skill, show these inner capabilities in all their glory, and until you bite off the leader of the gang’s ear, no one in this gang will respect or fear you.

I agree with the statement that people feel power with some kind of sixth sense, but still this is not always the case. May be strong man, but new team won't notice it yet. Or vice versa, to be weak, but successfully splurge, making a strong impression. And this also often happens, history knows such cases, let us recall at least Khlestakov. Therefore, in order for the force to truly work in life for your influence, it is necessary that the external correspond to the internal. It is necessary to learn how to show strength, sometimes demonstrate, prove, and even, if necessary, exert active force. And here they buy essential the already mentioned qualities accompanying the power, through which the power is manifested and with what it is associated. Namely - confidence, demeanor, purposefulness, ability to take a punch, courage, voice control, and others. Basically, they are tools. psychological impact that through which personal power manifests itself in outside world and through which our personality influences. But that's another, next topic.

Starting from the 7th grade, in social studies lessons, children begin to study who is called a personality. The concept of personality is the basis of psychology, social science, the beginning of the child's approach to science, to its understanding. The knowledge of children may be enough to understand who such a person is. However, it is not always easy for a child to understand and accept the concept of personality. In this article we will analyze who can be called a person.

Basic concepts about personality

Personality is every person who is individually different from others. Consider this definition in details.

Basically, people are naturally given a single mind, then the same age (in the general case), they should be equally developed, have common ideas about primitive things. So who is called a person? You can notice, comparing the same in terms of memory, physical and mental abilities, imagination, people that they behave in completely different ways. These differences are almost impossible to explain. But these differences make each person an individual.

Personality is a person with individual qualities. Absolutely every person can be a personality, for example, a person with some psychological, physical, mental characteristics.

Strong personality

And who is called - this is a person who puts himself above all circumstances, perceives all doubts and difficulties in a different way. This person does not adopt the manner of dressing from anyone, may not follow fashion, but give himself only to his own preferences. The main thing that makes a person is his own behavior. Who is called a person? Togo, behaves as his own convictions tell him to. He is not afraid that he will scare someone away with his behavior, but he only acts as his heart tells him.

Unfortunately, in today's world you can meet not so many strong personalities. Everyone is trying to learn something from the other, to do as the others do. Fear and prejudice - that's what prevents a person from stepping back from the imposed norms and doing what he needs.

personality?

Who is called a person? A person who has integrity inner world. But even a person can turn into a copy of someone, that is, lose their individual qualities and features, become part of the crowd. But vice versa, a person can turn into a strong person.

The very person who can be called a person must make the first big step on the way to overcoming unnecessary principles and norms. He can defeat tendentiousness, stop following others. A person who can openly stand up against the whole society directed against him, defend his own views on life, his foundations - this is a person who is a strong personality.

History shows that, unfortunately, being a strong personality does not always mean being a good man. In social studies lessons, they talk about such a strong personality as Adolf Hitler. However, Coco Chanel was also a strong personality, who not only achieved tremendous success in her business, but also convinced people who at first did not understand her that she was doing everything right.

As soon as I first started studying psychology, I realized how strong we humans are internally, but as a rule we don’t realize it. I realized that a truly enormous power is hidden in a person, this is the power of his spirit. However, since childhood, they have been trying to suppress this strength of ours. It is understandable, because a depressed, morally weak person is very easy to manage. The human psyche is arranged in such a way that he initially feels his superiority over others. children's behavior, direct to the confirmation. The children's psyche is sharpened to suppression, it is the same as in animals who are trying to get around their brothers and sisters in the struggle for mother's milk.

We do not know who we are and why we are here, we can only guess about it. But we see that for our survival in this world, we have the most necessary qualities for this. But in the social environment, humility, humility, fear are laid in us for generations, so that it is deposited at the genetic level. Thus, our inner strength is suppressed for many generations. The word “no” is just for such people with a depressed psyche. Ancient rituals, shamanic rites, all of them were aimed at training the psyche. The North American Indians were finally exterminated only when all the shamans were destroyed. It was the shamans who made the warriors invincible, they pumped up their psyche so much that they were not afraid of anything, and if a person is not afraid of anything, it is impossible to defeat him.

In sports, in business, in any kind of activity, everywhere you need hard character and fortitude. This is all, the mental state of a person, which can be trained or suppressed. Manipulation is the skillful application of the knowledge of psychology for personal gain. And although I have repeatedly convinced myself that it is possible to manipulate all people, regardless of their mental state, people with a weak psyche are still subject to this to a much greater extent. You can pick up the key to any person, but a weak person, it's just opened door. But a person with a pumped psyche is an insurmountable wall. Character must be tempered, the psyche must be trained.

Of course, there are people who are all right with this, they are not depressed people, adapted to life. They are like uncut stone, nothing is impossible for them. Everything in this life is trainable, and the psyche is no exception. If you were humiliated, suppressed, oppressed in childhood, it does not matter, believe me. You can become a strong person, you can change and move away from your past, if you just stop putting up with your weakness and start working on yourself. You can do it yourself or with the help of a good specialist.