How to make friends with a white crow. "white crows" in modern society

How to call a person who is not like the majority? One of the options is the "white crow". The meaning of phraseologism will be considered on understandable examples.

Definition

Let's start with the obvious. Ravens are usually black, sometimes black and grey, but by no means white. Albinos are generally rare.

Hence the white crow (see below for the meaning of the phraseological unit) is an object that stands out strongly from the general series. This is not just a quantitative difference, but a natural internal feature of something that creates a completely different idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe state of things. Foggy wording. Examples will help us to clarify it.

Examples

Imagine a typical school environment. With the usual division into "hooligans" and "nerds". Hooligans don't learn, they like to make trouble in the broadest sense of the word. Botanists, on the contrary, are diligent students, do not drink alcohol, read books. The reader knows for sure both those and those. So, the white crow (the meaning of the phraseologism is studied with all care) is a bully who loves books to the point of trembling in his hands, and absolutely any: historical, artistic, scientific.

He is considered a man "out of this world" by fellow hooligans and nerds alike. People are prone to maximalism, so you have to be a hooligan or a nerd, but to the very end, “to the bottom”, as V. V. Mayakovsky said. A person who perceives reality as a mosaic in which elements can be freely shuffled makes a strange and wonderful impression on those around him. They say things like, “Oh! There's a white crow." The meaning of phraseologism now does not cause difficulties.

This is not a judgment

In fact, being very different from your surroundings is not so bad, because it can be so-so. But we must understand that this characteristic does not mean anything. Among hooligans, a person who reads books is a white crow. Then, for various reasons, the company may change, and a person will find himself in an environment where it is a shame not to read, not to be interested in something, not to develop.

There is a wonderful literary analogy of a person who is suitable for the definition of “white crow” (the meaning of a phraseological unit, an example with it was a little earlier, but we still decided to concretize our reasoning). This, of course, is about Alex from Burgess's A Clockwork Orange. The protagonist works, no doubt, a terrible person, but at the same time he has a developed (or innate) sense of beauty and some kind of mind. This is what makes him stand out from the crowd.

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Here is the enigmatic video(6 min.) to the topic that I will now write about.

This article of mine was published in the magazine "Reincarnation" in October 2015. entitled " 6 signs that you are a spiritual white crow. How to find understanding of loved ones without betraying yourself ".

I treat my articles as if they were living beings. When I release them into the world, I always think about those to whom they are intended, who "ordered".

I collected the same article, like beads on a string, for a whole month. And now she is already in this world)) I added it to my pantry on the blog in the original version (the magazine is a little compressed).

“Why am I so different from the people around me? Like I'm out of this world? Sometimes there is a feeling that I am from another planet ... ”, - I have heard many times from different people, seen in programs, read on forums when people ask themselves and others such questions.

When clients with such conditions began to come to me for a consultation, I realized that it was time to give out such material.

Are white crows aliens from other planets?

Although I have not found my incarnations on other planets (yet), I have conducted such sessions from the very beginning.

People, you have no idea how sometimes you are close to the truth, considering themselves guests from other planets!

What parts of the Universe have already come across to me with my clients! To learn the details of such incarnations is a special discovery about the multidimensionality of the Universe.

I sometimes walk down the street, I see people with a special, distinctive appearance and I think: “Oh, what unusual tasks for the incarnation of this Soul!)

But often it's not even about appearance.

Who are called White Ravens?

According to the definition from the dictionary of phraseological units, "White crow is a metaphor for a person who has a behavior or value system that is different from other members of his community.

White crows can be people with a non-standard appearance (like Barbra Streisand), a non-standard inner world (like Woody Allen), as well as non-standard habits.

When a person has tattoos all over his body, or he crosses the road at a red light, all this is a protest against society. These are also White Ravens.

But now I want to talk about spiritual sense this concept.

Find out if you are a white crow

There is special signs, which distinguish the so-called "white crows" from other people.

1. They are called weirdos and are often made outcasts. Spiritual suffering of such people begins in childhood and can last all adult life.

2. Since childhood, their questions are inappropriate, their behavior is also characterized by uncertainty. These people are distinguished by the fact that they speak out of place.

3. In order not to be isolated, they try to pretend not to be who they really are.

4. To hide their out-of-the-box thinking, they agree with everyone in order to reduce their trauma. But they are smart and often more well-read than all their surroundings put together.

5. Many felt inexplicable sadism and incomprehensible, merciless persecution, both in groups of children and adults. Children are generally very cruel to those who are not like them. What can we say about adults.

6. Such people drop out of the system. Yes, this is it's another test for life . Probably, some Souls, while still in the World of Souls, take such a difficult experience on purpose?

And already in the physical world, as embodied people, they are worried that they cannot get used not only in society, but also in the closest environment.

I'm not like everyone else, how to be?

I will tell you one episode from my childhood. I was a real “black sheep” in my early environment, I also went through such an experience)).

During the passage of the preparatory course, I recalled an episode from early childhood, carefully forced out of my memory.

I remembered that it was then that for the first time I felt “some kind of different”. Looks like it was New Year's Eve from the grandeur of the moment, from the community and unity of the family (such a gathering of relatives was quite rare), I burst into tears in a fit of feelings, huddled under the table.

Other children ran to call adults. They tried to pull me out from under the table without choosing expressions - I was born in a proletarian family. Roughly, without choosing expressions, they interrogated what was happening to me.

I, a refined child with a vulnerable psyche, clapped tear-stained eyes and suddenly realized that “they” do not feel this amazing moment ... They simply do not know and do not understand such words.

At that moment, I felt the distance to a desert island, global loneliness, that I was a stranger in my family, that they would never understand me here.

Many had personal points of understanding of their dissimilarity to others.

6 ways to find rapport while being yourself

I want to give various effective options for how to negotiate with society, and from personal experience, and from observing such people.

1. Work on getting out of the victim image.

Did you know that psychologists single out the “law of system development”, the knowledge of which helps each person to understand his place in this system, whatever it may be. This is any team, family, clan, work, etc.

Such a law says that in any system there will be someone strong, and always someone weak. Your special task is to strive to become strong. This is such an interesting game.

In general, this is very interesting experience for the soul, which apparently has to learn in this incarnation to acquire some internal or external value.

Learn to give people something so important and useful.

Think about this phrase, it is priceless.

2. Learn to build personal boundaries (you need them like no one else).

To fight back those who encroach on them (yes, planet Earth is an unsafe place for your incarnation). Stop being a scapegoat.

You can win back your borders both gently, a little bit, and in cardinal ways. The technique works well when you do not react or agree immediately, but take an interval to think.

3. Raise your level of awareness and take responsibility for your life (at least in this life)).

One simple thought that the World did not promise you happiness, but you yourself can bring beauty to this World every day, is the first step from which you can start this very day.

4. "Pretend normal!" A good skill to help you cope with your non-standard.

I heard a story that there was a psychiatrist who cured all patients, even hopeless ones. His medical community even expelled from their ranks. What was so amazing about this spiritual therapist saying to his special clients?

To the patient’s words “I am a giraffe,” he replied: “You know, everyone thinks that they are someone like that too. But they all pretend to be human. And you pretend to be human."

And the man lived in a normal society until the end of his days.

5. Realize your uniqueness. Accept communication in society as a game. Play like good actors.

On Earth, we manifest through actions. Create your personal value and extend this value to others.

In fact, this item is limitless in its scope. Each person is unique in some way. Therefore, you can consciously direct your attention to such a request.

The universe will throw the right materials, thoughts, people confirming to you that this is so. After all, the Universe always agrees with what you think about yourself ...

6. "And Vaska listens and eats." Keep looking for like-minded people who are just like you in their dissimilarity. Therefore, do not isolate yourself, communicate in society. Communicate, feel out "their" in a conversation ...

I assure you that this someone may be ... among your inner circle and may also be "disguised".

3 Ways to Heal Yourself with Reincarnation

1. Find out your tasks for such a "strange" incarnation ...

One of effective methods determining one's place in this world - immersion. A method of addressing one's Soul, one's Higher Self, in order to claim information about oneself. Now it is already available to almost everyone.

The uniqueness of the method is that it allows you to find out the reasons why such people come to our World - with unusual appearances, with unusual destinies, with unusual lifelines, with unusual orientations, as well as with short lives- flashed like torches, and gone in the prime of life?

Why do such people come to our World - with unusual appearances, with unusual destinies, with unusual lifelines, with unusual orientations, and also with short lives - flashed like torches and gone in the prime of life?

One of the effective methods determining one's place in this world- diving. This is a method of addressing your Soul, your Higher Self, in order to claim information about yourself. Now it is already available to almost everyone.

We have a unique, amazing method - to find out causes why did you come into this world like that?

2. Sorry their relatives. It's hard, but sorry. We have a technique for working with Rod.

Just think that your loved ones are Souls who also go through their personal, no less complex, experiences on Earth. So why do you need "someone else's karma"?) Be more condescending to other people's lessons))

3.Release yourself from traumatic experiences.

Viewing past events in immersion allows you to see the role of the abuser from a different angle. You may be surprised to find that he, your offender, did not want to offend you at all! Perhaps it wasn't quite right. And in his head there were completely different thoughts and desires)).

I would have such a technique many years ago! How many experiences could have been avoided! But now I already have such a healing tool.

And you come to our sessions)) And see for yourself in this.

Conclusion

In this article, I have only briefly covered this mysterious topic about internal state and feeling like white crows in society.

I have not yet seen such notes, but I know that people are waiting and looking for such information. I would be very glad if my thoughts were useful to you and interesting to those who consider themselves to be such a part of humanity.

Perhaps the White Ravens realize that they are not alone, there are many of them. I think that this topic will also call to be more careful with such people and their environment, reminding them how difficult it is for them.

P.S. If this topic is close to you or somehow affected, I will be grateful to everyone for your comments on such an ambiguous topic.

Alena Obukhova . Reincarnation consultant, psychologist, researcher, author of the Helen Kanal Reincarnation project. I talk about my experience and share my observations.

Nature surprises with its mysteries, and one of them - albinism. This phenomenon occurs due to a malfunction in the genetic code of animals, while the skin and hair cover are deprived of a special pigment responsible for their color. Such an animal is born and remains white throughout its life. These individuals in the animal world are called albinos (from the Latin word "albus" - white).

In nature, you can find white horses and cows, mice and rabbits, deer and squirrels. Less often you can find a white elephant or a tiger, a toad and a sturgeon. But the most rare White crow. Usually these birds are black or gray in color. That is why she is mentioned in famous phraseological unit "white crow".

Expression value

This phrase is used to describe a person who is radically different from those around him. appearance, behavior, attitudes or interests. All this is manifested in the actions or statements of this person. Society may consider him strange or mentally unhealthy, although this is completely untrue.

Controversy - main feature"white crows". On the one hand, it is a unique interesting person, bright personality. On the other hand, he is always considered an outcast, he is not accepted or feared by society.

When using this phrase in sentences, people mean those who go beyond the generally accepted boundaries and violate established rules with their extraordinary behaviour.

Many are unsettled by the fact that someone may not pay attention to established canons and act solely at their own discretion. AT last years the value of the expression is used in a positive aspect, since bright personalities become a role model.

The history of the appearance of phraseology

The origin of the phraseologism "white crow" is associated with the poet Junius, who lived in Rome at the end of the first and beginning of the second century. History claims: the phrase was first heard in his poem, where the poet said that only the will of chance can give the slave a kingdom, and the captive - a triumph, and such a case is even rarer than a white crow.

Knowing what the hierarchical structure of society was like in the Ancient Roman Empire, it is difficult to disagree with these words. In the seventh satire of Junius, this phrase is literally indicated. AT Eastern countries they use an analogue of this phraseological unit - “white elephant”, since albino elephants can be found very rarely there.

How people become white crows

It is easy to be judged by society. For this, a person is enough go against stereotypes, to have radically opposing views, strange appearance and unusual hobbies. Independence from established norms, the rejection of branded clothing and household items, social networks distinguish a person in the same way as belonging to subcultures, strange addictions or refusal to create a family.

It is difficult for the "White Crow" to fight the opinions of others, but she should not be afraid to express her individuality. In order to stop feeling oppressed because of being different from others, you must:

• Present your views and opinions as original idea;
• Bring interests and hobbies to the public and surprise society with them;
• Learn to communicate, trust people and share both your interests with them, and accept their hobbies.

Is it easy to be unique

Those who are called the "white crow" do not seek to impose their views on others, but consider their point of view to be more correct. It is with this that society is trying to fight, which does not like dissident people. It is difficult for them to adapt in groups, among friends and acquaintances, because:

• They are subjected to insults, contempt and insults;
• Their individuality is being suppressed;
• With strange people, few people want to communicate, so they have few friends. Usually "white crows" are looking for comrades among the supporters of their views.
• Society often ignores the opinion of people.

How to behave as a white crow

Most often, teenagers are distinguished by dissimilarity, but it is easier for them to endure loneliness and unacceptability on the part of society. Sometimes they themselves want to stand out among their peers. Although children can be very cruel to those who do not merge with the general mass. But adults are also ridiculed, and it is much more difficult for them to be around those who do not share their hobbies.

Relationship psychologists offer the following advice to adult “black sheep” and unusual teenagers:

• It is necessary to learn to understand and respect the views and opinions of other people, to treat them kindly.
• Observe those around you and notice what you can learn.
• Explain your views and position not categorically and calmly, do not offend opposing judgments.
• In the case of ridiculing physical shortcomings, it is worth using them as the main advantage. High growth, for example, will allow women to get a job in a modeling agency, and men to start playing basketball.
• You need to get used to your dissimilarity, to emphasize individuality.

There is a parable about the white crow. An unusual bird lived among its black relatives and was constantly ridiculed by them without explaining the reason for such behavior. The white bird responded to the evil done only with kindness. Trying to communicate as little as possible with other crows, she took off and soared high in the sky. Due to oppression, the white crow matured early, became independent and independent, for which hatred and envy towards her only intensified.

The white bird decided to fly away in search of the same crows in order to finally become ordinary and not stand out among the flock. White crow flew away, but her disappearance was noticed. The relatives of the bird remembered her good qualities, admitted their mistakes and regretted that the white crow had left them.

Moral of the parable: no need to pay attention to the ridicule of others. It is important to preserve your dignity and individuality, look for like-minded people and behave naturally.

WHO IS THE “WHITE CROW” AND HOW TO HELP HER

Mayorov Vladimir Vladimirovich

2nd year student, Department of "Insurance Business", SBEI SPO Venets-Zarya Veterinary College KK, p. Ventsy

E- mail: venice zvt

Churikova Irina Alekseevna

scientific supervisor, lecturer foreign languages, GBOU SPO Venets-Zarya Veterinary College KK, v. Venetsy

In nature, white crows are ordinary individuals that differ from their relatives only in color (lack of pigment, i.e., albinism). Their habits and behavior are no different (Figures 1, 2).

Picture 1. white crow in nature

Fig.2. "White crow" in human society

White crows among people are a very complex phenomenon.

In the animal environment, the identification of a stranger (i.e., unlike others) is a necessity for the survival of the pack. Here the same color has great importance for the survival of the group. Therefore, the behavior of animals is understandable, expelling from the pack those individuals that stand out and therefore attract danger.

The human environment continues and supports this cruel struggle with the “white crows”, which we ourselves are, this is each of us. Why are we fighting this fight, dividing the world into black and white? Indeed, it is drawn different colors. A mixture of colors and colors is harmony.

Since ancient times, a “black sheep” has been called a person who differs from others in thinking, behavior, and appearance. A person is individual, stands out among similar individuals, is interesting in his own way. But society often does not accept such people. Therefore, it is incredibly difficult for the "white crow" to live in our world.

To be - by one's own will and not by one's own - a "white crow" or not, everyone decides for himself. For me, one thing is clear: the white crow is rare view, so you should not reject it, but rather try to save it. After all, perhaps the one who today is a white crow, tomorrow may be known to the whole world.

I believe that it is possible and necessary to stand out from the masses, but not by appearance, but by something else, for example, your mental or creativity, the ability to do something interesting and necessary, not paying attention to the fact that others do not like it.

You can not stand out from your surroundings, but remain yourself, keeping everything positive traits person. And if you still stand out, then be sure to only good.

There are people who stand out total weight due to their rare abilities or talents. And there are those who want to stand out "from the crowd" not by creating something new, but by changing their appearance. “If a person simply does not know how to show his self in any other way than to dye his hair blue-green or wear clothes of bygone centuries, then this is his own decision, his choice, and his personal way to show his distinguishing feature from those living nearby. This means that a person cannot express his uniqueness in a different way, he simply does not know how.

Since ancient times, attention has been attracted by people who differ from others due to their internal qualities personality. And the stronger and brighter a person stands out from the crowd, the more they talk about his individuality (developed individuality).

Where people live according to standards, an extraordinary person who has retained his individuality is perceived as a white crow.

They call it a white crow unusual people, bright, which can be easily seen in the crowd, talented, often lonely and misunderstood.

It is very difficult to define a "white crow". Some consider only that person to be a “black sheep” who differs from everyone else because of his natural (innate) qualities, and not because he wants to. The white crow did not want to be born white.

Yes, many strive to stand out from the crowd, but having stood out, they will not be real "white crows". There is a difference between people, for example, one wants to stand out, dress in a special way in order to be noticed, and the other dresses differently than everyone else, because he feels comfortable that way, he feels that way, and not in order to cause bewilderment surrounding. For example, a girl always dresses like a boy, she cannot wear bows, dresses.

On the one hand, a person wants to be in the “pack”, says: “This is my pack! I am your". But on the other hand, he wants to stand out there: “I’m not like everyone else, I’m special!” People are all different. And this is not surprising. Each person is somehow different from others, differs from the majority so much that he begins to be "stranger", to seem like a "black sheep" to everyone else.

Unfortunately, at present, tolerance (tolerance) for the peculiarities of other people, dissimilarity” (“otherness”) is not common in our society. And how I would like us all to live together even next to those who think and act differently. After all, if you think about it, this very “otherness” makes our human world diverse and interesting.

At school and elsewhere educational institutions there have always been and will be "white crows". What to do with them? It is necessary to accept them as they are, because we all have the right to individuality and freedom of expression. And in order to understand and accept them, I think it would be useful for all of us to spend the Day of the "white crow" at school, technical school. Every schoolboy, student could be a “nerd”, “fat man”, “bespectacled man”, that is, any kind of “white crow” on this day. You can dress as the role requires. And at the end of the day, let everyone write an essay about their impressions, feelings, and the attitude of others around them. Let everyone try on this role before laughing, mocking, undeservedly criticizing, and let them understand what it is like to be a “black sheep”. I am sure that soon there will be problems in finding common language the team will be smaller. And then the life of the "white crows" will be easier.

I also think that it is possible to hold some events in educational institutions, thanks to which children, adolescents would think about their attitude towards “other”, unlike their peers, would understand that being a “black sheep” is not easy, and that this only in their collective they are such, and in another they would be like everyone else.

At some lesson, you can ask the "white crow" to talk about your hobby and show, for example, a collection of butterflies. I'm sure the story would be very interesting. Then everyone would look at such a person from the other side.

You can also conduct a survey for everyone on the topic “Does the white crow need help?”, As well as Classroom hour where the following situations can be discussed:

1. Choose one color. Draw a picture with this color only. Have you drawn? Like?

2. Imagine that everyone will have the same clothes, for example, blue jeans and a white T-shirt. I wonder when everyone wears the same clothes?

3. Let's imagine the following situation: There is one profession in our world. What kind of activity do you like? - For example, all artists. Everyone is playing their part. And there is no one to watch. There are no spectators. I wonder when there are only artists around? Or all the singers, everyone walks and sings. They wanted to eat, but there is no cook, baker, tractor driver, salesman, etc. Sorry, go hungry.

4. Now let everyone imagine such a situation. Each of you is an athlete, a football player. Falls on Wednesday creative people(lepidopterologists who specialize in the study of butterflies). And what will you do there with your ball? Who will you be? Are you different from them, how do you feel? You are the white crow among them. Is it easy for you to communicate with them?

Now you see how boring the world is in the same colors? The world must live different people, and must also be present different colors: and blue, and yellow, and green ... that is, all colors. Imagine a sky without blue color, sun without yellow. Difficult? Not interested?

And, perhaps, after discussing such situations, others will approach the “white crow” and try to talk, find out more about her, what her interests are, what she “breathes”. For example, did a person want to be a "black sheep" or is he not like that on his own.

In any environment and under any circumstances, a person should always strive to become better in everything: in knowledge, in behavior, in the ability to communicate with other people.

We are often told about tolerance. Of course, each of us needs to work on ourselves, to fight the reluctance to understand and accept those who differ from you in some way.

After all, we are modern civilized people, and it is very strange that (often) we often lack tolerance and responsiveness, kindness, and understanding. Why "white crows", living among us, must defend their originality? After all, everyone has the right to be themselves. It is very hard when you are not perceived for who you are!

I believe that one should treat them and all people with kindness. You need to love people. If you love, it cannot be that no one will love you.

And how to survive (survive) in such conditions for those who, for whatever reason, were classified as “other”, “strange”? Lonely, rejected, mysterious "white crows" live among us and endure insults, humiliation, persecution from their peers. So what about those who do not fit into the standards, who are not like everyone else?

I also believe that each of us, to some extent, is a real "black sheep" because we are unique in our essence, each one is infinitely unique and unrepeatable. But this is especially noticeable when we find ourselves in unsuitable conditions for us, in an unusual company for us, and even in the company of "white crows", where, paradoxically, you are the only one who is not like them, and you will be a "white crow" ”, not them, but you (Figure 3).

Figure 3

Here's what's funny: people often "peck" the "white crows", but they are very indignant when they suddenly find themselves in their place.

And I am to some extent a "white crow". I differ from many of my peers in that I do not “sit” in social networks. I use the Internet only to gain knowledge, participate in olympiads, competitions and, since I love sports and do it, I try to keep abreast of sporting events in the world. I also always have my own point of view and do not hesitate to express it to others. Often my opinion differs from the opinion of the majority. And if others fail to convince me, I continue to defend my view of things. I'm not afraid to be different.

I would like everyone to understand this simple truth: every person has the right to be and remain as he is; if a person is not like everyone else, this does not mean that he is the worst.

I would like that after reading my article, every reader would recognize himself as a "white crow", that is, a person who differs in some way from everyone else. Of course, we are all individuals. There are many people and they are all different. How boring it would be to live in this world if people were the same!

Each person needs to defend their individuality and live their own lives. You should also find friends among people like you, some hobby and learn to forgive people, to be and always remain a person. And for the “black sheep” who find it difficult to communicate with their peers, I want to advise you to read Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends.

Tips for "white crows"

How to avoid alienation from society

1. Be yourself. You shouldn't be ashamed of your inner peace, should not bend under the laws of the "flock". You already have friends and family who love you for who you are. You deserve happiness, and your life, your originality depends only on you. Don't be afraid to be yourself! Love yourself!

2. Don't try to change the world for yourself. But you should not change yourself just to please others.

3. Don't give up, believe in yourself. Look at the guys in your team. Maybe one of them needs help, and it is you who can provide this help.

4. Do not respond with aggression to smiles in your direction, it is better to smile and try to answer with a joke.

5. Don't withdraw into yourself. Keep yourself busy with something interesting, and there, look, more friends will appear. Be sure to participate in community events!

6. Don't sit back. If you leave everything as it is, nothing will change. Show perseverance.

7. Find other such "white crows". Unite. It's easier together.

“We are all different, completely different, and that's great! And to be a "black sheep" in fact is not a pain and a problem, it is our pride and our unique shade in the picturesque picture of this wonderful world» .

I hope society will sooner or later understand how to treat the "white crows". And then our planet would change a lot and sparkle with delightfully beautiful colors of kindness, peace, love and harmony.

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“White crows never live well… But God loves white crows. I think it's worth the pain. For this happiness ... "

A quote from the work "Asterisk" by the modern writer Elena Lagutina briefly, but quite capaciously reflects the meaning of the phenomenon called "white crow". More than one article on psychology is devoted to this topic that is relevant at all times.

People who are called “white crows” by those around them are regularly subjected to aggressive attacks and meet with misunderstanding, and often condemnation, in fact, in the person of their fellow “black crows”. A natural question arises: why?

Now the media are actively discussing the monstrous incident that occurred recently in the city of Gusev, Kaliningrad region. Let me remind you: two 14-year-old schoolgirls severely beat their peers. A young man who was present at the time of the massacre filmed what was happening on a video camera. After that, the video was “laid out” on the Internet for viewing throughout the country.

The injured girl is disabled. This fact, of course, distinguishes her from other children. And although the reasons for the aggression of young monsters in relation to the victim have not been fully clarified, and most importantly, they are not understood by society, there is every reason to believe that the tragedy was largely provoked by the dissimilarity of the child to those around him.

Case on topic. Vera was the only excellent student in the class. And the only one who did not smoke, did not drink alcohol and did not lead a wild life. Classmates did not like Vera, but to some extent depended on her: in which case she always let me write off homework and prompted the correct answer to the problem on control work. Therefore, they had to hide their true attitude towards the girl, although this did not work out well.

But one “beautiful” day, Vera went into the classroom on a call to the lesson and saw: her classmates climbed into her bag without asking, took out a notebook with the homework in physics completed the day before and, without a twinge of conscience, write off, sitting right at her desk. The appearance of the mistress of the notebook had no effect on the behavior of impudent girls. Moreover, Vera's indignation was perceived with incomprehension and caused a violent negative response.

The next day, almost the entire class stopped talking to the girl. Only two schoolgirls did not accept the conditions of the majority and continued to communicate with Vera. In addition to the boycott, the "flock" in every possible way mocked "not like everyone else": they smeared the chair on which the victim was sitting with ink, chalk, put buttons, hid things, burned the sleeve of a jacket hanging in the locker room, and even pushed Vera into a ravine, though without any health consequences.

It was the ninth grade - no longer small children, but quite adult people who are aware of their actions, acting together, unitedly, setting out to “beat” a person who is not like them. Do you know what is the worst thing about this situation? People who throw all their strength into the destruction of one do not feel guilty. On the contrary: they consider their behavior to be the norm.

This story has a good ending: Vera's parents intervened in time, followed by teachers. As a result, the participants of the bullying asked for forgiveness from the girl and the boycott with bullying was over once and for all. But until the end of school, until the last second, classmates quietly hated Vera because she was “not like everyone else” ...

Sounds like a diagnosis, right? The term "white crow" in many people is associated with the expressions "out of this world", "strange", "abnormal". Meanwhile, these words contain the essence of a person who is different from the majority. Let's try to figure it out, and at the same time highlight the reasons for the negative attitude towards the "white crows" on the part of others.

“Not of this world” is a hint that the individual belongs to another space-time, if not in body, then certainly in soul and thoughts. He is like a humanoid, different. This statement perfectly reflects the essence of the “white crow”, which really feels like a stranger in the earthly world. Maybe that is why people who are said to be “not of this world” often carry a spark of God in themselves, that is, they are endowed with rare talents that delight someone, and cause envy in someone. The last aspect is one of the reasons for the dislike for the "white crows".

The word "weird" comes from its cognate word "side". So, calling a person “strange”, they mean that he is a stranger, a stranger, non-local, with his own convictions, moral principles and rules of life.

Finally, the word "abnormal" is the opposite of the expression "normal". A norm is a generally accepted set of qualities and a style of behavior that all members of society must comply with. "Should? To whom should? - someone will be indignant and will be right. The norm was invented by mankind, and everything that goes beyond it is considered wrong, abnormal. But what right do people have to talk about the normality of this or that individual? Nature lays in any person what she sees fit. Do we, mere mortals, dare to condemn her creation? (It should be noted that this does not apply to out-of-the-ordinary actions, such as crimes, brawls, etc. These inconsistencies with the norm cannot be justified by anything).

Thus, another reason for the rejection of the "white crows" by the "flock" is the adherence to the social stereotype called "to be like everyone else" and the perception of the slightest deviation from it as a defect.

What if you look at this problem through the eyes of the "white crows"? Put yourself in their place and try to understand: what do they feel - people who stand out from the gray mass?

So, the "white crows" are divided into two categories. Representatives of the first, suffering from a misunderstanding of others, are struggling to establish contact with them, trying to "coincide" with the majority. As a result, they manage to some extent "disguise" under " black crow”, but such people still stand out from the crowd and are perceived as individuals running away from themselves.

Representatives of the second category are not only aware of their exclusivity, but are also proud of it, emphasize it in every possible way, not missing the slightest opportunity to once again prove to those around them their wretchedness. Such "white crows" are often inveterate "narcissists" and egoists, but, nevertheless, they achieve certain heights in life. If their plans fail, they still oppose themselves to others and with dignity bear the title of "unrecognized Perfection".

In any case, being born a "black sheep" is both a reward from above and a punishment at the same time. A person awarded the title of "Chosen One", endowed with an outstanding spiritual world and the right to adorn earthly reality, "dilute" human uniformity, the Higher principle dooms to torment and heart torment. Not everyone is to their taste and can feel like a thorn in the eye of the majority throughout their lives. Some break, sinking to the very bottom. And it is impossible to change anything, because it is said in the Bible: “Whom I love, I will punish” ...