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How to read through the eyes? Psychologists' observations show that when communicating, people are not able to look at each other constantly, no more than 60% of the total conversation time. However, the time of eye contact can go beyond these limits in two cases: in lovers and in aggressive people.

Duration of eye contact depends on the distance between the interlocutors. The greater the distance, the more prolonged eye contacts are possible between them and the easier it is to read thoughts through the eyes. Therefore, communication will be more effective if the partners sit on opposite sides of the table, in which case the increase in the distance between the partners will be compensated by the increase in the duration of eye contact.

Women take longer to look at those they like, and men take longer to look at those who like them. In general, women use a direct gaze more often than men, therefore they are less likely than men to perceive a gaze as a threat, on the contrary, a woman considers a direct gaze an expression of interest and desire to make contact. Although, by no means all direct views of men are perceived favorably by women, a lot depends on the man himself.

Do not think that a direct look is a sign of honesty and openness. well trained deceivers know how to fix the gaze on the eyes interlocutor, and besides, they still try to control the actions of their hands, not allowing them to approach the face. However, if the deceiver is not trained, for example, a child, then his lies are easy to recognize, the liar's hands reach out to his face, block his mouth and nose, his eyes run from side to side. Read how to manage people

Psychologist S. Stepanov writes:
“The dilation of the pupils speaks of the intensity of feelings. When a person perceives a certain stimulus with special attention and interest, his entire body is activated. In particular, the pupils increase - this is the result of the excitation of the sympathetic nervous system. It is clear that when a lover looks at his beloved, he is looking for evidence of excitement and interest in her eyes. Accordingly, his own pupils also expand.

Constriction and expansion of the pupils are not subject to consciousness, and therefore their reaction very clearly shows the partner's interest in you. You can control your eyes, but not your pupils. The expansion of the pupils indicates an increase in interest in you, their narrowing will tell about hostility. However, such phenomena must be observed in dynamics, because the size of the pupil also depends on the illumination. In bright sunlight, the pupils of a person are narrow, in a dark room, the pupils dilate.

The theory of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) claims that by the movement of the eyes of the interlocutor, you can read exactly what images are now in the mind of a person, and what he is doing now - inventing or remembering. The following techniques are often used by employers

What does a person's gaze say?

If the partner looks up to the left or just up, he is immersed in visual memories. Such a look can be seen in a person answering the question: “What does a hundred-ruble banknote look like?”.

Looking up to the right reveals a visual construction. Man tries to imagine what he has never seen. For example, try to imagine a relative wearing an astronaut space suit.

Eyes to the left to the side - auditory memories. For example, remember the sounds of a piano.

If the gaze is directed to the right to the side, this is a sign of auditory construction. For example, imagine how people from other planets speak?

Eyes to the left and down - internal conversation with yourself.

Looking down to the right or just down gives kinesthetic representations. For example, emotional and tactile. That is where your gaze is directed when you recall your feelings from the warm and soft bed in which you lay.

For lefties, the picture is completely opposite.

Since childhood, each of us is well aware of the phrase: “The eyes are the mirror of the soul.” But the point is not even that in the look of a person one can read his mood or intentions. It turns out that the shape, cut and color of the eyes serve as a clear reflection of the character and habits of its owner. Do not trust? Then look at both.

Color

Blue-eyed people are often credited with qualities such as daydreaming, sentimentality and romance. The owners of this eye color are sensitive, emotional and rather capricious. In life, they are attracted by diversity and dynamics. At the same time, blue-eyed people have well-developed imagination, imagination and taste. Usually they are talented and very purposeful people.

People with gray eyes are irreplaceable workers. From childhood, they show kindness, responsiveness, practicality, patience and prudence. You can always rely on them. Gray-eyed are inquisitive and quick-witted, but nature has not endowed them with great physical strength and intuition.

The green-eyed part of the world's population is often compared to cats. And indeed it is. Despite the outward composure and independence, these are very devoted, gentle, kind and vulnerable personalities. On the one hand, such people are hardy, stubborn, principled, and on the other hand, they are neat, polite and compliant.

Brown and black eyes are the surest sign of impulsiveness and passion. Such people are quick-tempered, but at the same time they quickly recover. They are active, amorous and charming. In feelings, they tend to show extremes - if they love, then with all their hearts, and if they hate, then with all their hearts.

If the iris has a non-uniform color, this indicates the complexity and inconsistency of nature. Do not expect that communication with such a person will be easy.

The form

Chinese scientists pay attention not only to color, but also to the shape of the eyes. They created a special classification by which one can determine the character of a person by comparing the type of his eyes with the corresponding representative of the animal world. According to Chinese typology, there are large and bright "dragon eyes", elongated and shiny "phoenix eyes", having folds on the upper and lower eyelids "lion eyes", narrow and long "elephant eyes", round with a yellowish tint "tiger eyes" and narrow, with several layers of skin on the upper eyelids "sheep's eyes".

At the same time, dragons are imperious rulers, phoenixes are representatives of the art world, lions are born commanders, elephants are calm friends, tigers are cruel conquerors, and sheep are modest hard workers.

If you leave the animal world alone and turn to the associative series, you will notice that the size of the eyes corresponds to the openness of the character. People with large, wide eyes are frank, sensual, artistic and sociable. Small eyes belong to self-sufficient individuals, but rather secretive, uncompromising and suspicious.

Location

Eyes widely spaced from each other speak of far-sightedness and good imagination. Close-set eyes can be a sign of scrupulousness and perseverance.

Eyes "rolling out" - a sure sign of social activity and enthusiasm. And deep-set eyes, on the contrary, speak of a person's caution and observation.

Delving into the eyes of your chosen one or business partner, do not be too categorical in your judgments. Each person is individual and, perhaps, it is your interlocutor who will become a rare exception to the generally accepted rule. The main thing is that a person’s eyes should be kind, and his gaze should be direct and conscious. The rest is trifles!

Does the interviewer look directly into the eyes? This is a good sign, meaning that he is very interested in the conversation. True, if he does not look away for too long, this may mean that he does not trust words very much or is scared. And if he does not look into the eyes for long, then, most likely, he was not interested in the conversation, and he does not experience any special emotions. Worst of all, if a person does not make eye contact at all. This means that the conversation, unfortunately, does not interest him at all.

When someone lowers their eyes during a conversation, this indicates that he is embarrassed, uncomfortable and does not want to continue this conversation. True, this applies only to "Western" conversations. In the East, eyes lowered during a conversation do not indicate discomfort. On the contrary, it is the norm.

If a comrade looks up, then he treats the narrator sarcastically or contemptuously. And the topic of conversation annoys him with something. But at the same time, most likely, he treats all this condescendingly.

When people look to the left, they remember or make up sounds. By the way, most often the one who composes a new melody looks exactly to the left. And when their gaze is directed to the right, they try to remember something.

If a person looks to the right corner, then he conducts an “internal dialogue” with himself. He can think about what he wants to say to the interlocutor, or just think about some phrase. And in the case when he looks in the lower left corner, he probably remembers some impressions.

When the interlocutors look in the upper right corner, they always present some kind of picture that has remained in their memory. For example, if you ask a friend to describe clothes or a person, he will probably look in the upper right corner.

But if someone looks in the upper left corner, he is definitely trying to present something new. This means that a person turns on fantasy and, as it were, “draws” some kind of picture in his imagination.

Almost all people involuntarily observe these “rules” during a conversation. By the way, it is worth that the left-hander will do all this "mirror". That is, when the right-hander looks to the left, the left-hander looks to the right.

Unfortunately, there is no single way to distinguish untruth from truth. But, perhaps, there is only one option that most often works. It is necessary to ask the interlocutor an elementary question, to which the answer is known in advance. For example, ask how old he is. If the interlocutor looks in the upper right corner (right-handed) or in the upper left corner (left-handed), it means that what has been said can be trusted.

Now in the future it will be possible to determine whether this person is lying. For example, if a right-handed person shares his daily impressions and looks to the upper right corner, he is not lying, but as soon as he starts talking about a stunning vacation and looks to the upper left corner, it will be possible to conclude that the story is clearly embellished.

If you remember all these signs and them in life, it will undoubtedly become much easier to establish contact with the interlocutor.

August 18, 2016

The eyes of each person have some permanent and unchanging characteristics (morphological features) associated with heredity, race and nationality:

• landing depth,
• distance between eyes
• placement of eyes relative to the horizon line,
• cut and color.

Only the size of the pupil and muscle reactions around the eyes can change. And it's harder to deal with it.

The eyes provide the interlocutor with reliable information coming from the subcortex of the brain. We cannot so quickly control the pupil and eye muscles controlled by the complex mechanisms of the nervous system. Therefore, these signals are true, at least for the first fractions of a second.

That is why, when talking with a significant person for us, we carefully peer into the eyes, trying to catch the smallest changes in the person’s mood.

Even when we are talking very quietly on the phone on too intimate topics, we turn away from the others who are nearby. Why do we do this, realizing that no one can hear us? We just don't want our eyes to betray to the rest our attitude towards the person on the other side of the phone.

1. Messages with facial expressions

With regular training, you can learn to read others well and hide yourself. Such methods are widely used in special military-political services. You can not only mislead your opponent, but also transmit an encrypted message.

A lot of useful things can be learned from films and series:

• "Lie to me" - the series is based on the work of Paul Ekman, a prominent expert in recognizing lies from human behavior.
• Action-packed thriller-detective "Leaving no trace". A film about online murders taking place in real time and filmed on a webcam. One of the victims of the maniac becomes a specially trained agent. Before his death, he uses a series of blinks and eye movements to lead his colleagues to the real killer.
• The American series "Motherland" (or its other name "Stranger Among Us") clearly demonstrates such manipulations.
• Series "24 hours".

Well, the most truthful and understandable message of the eyes for us, of course, is the look of a child. Please note that in newborn babies, the eyes are always rounded with large pupils that increase with the approach of the mother.

The eyes of infants seem very large relative to the area of ​​​​the entire face. Some scientists believe that this is a kind of natural adaptation. It helps the baby to constantly "keep" the attention of an adult, whose guardianship is vital, especially in the first months after birth.

2. Some difficulties in reading through the eyes

It makes it very difficult to “read through the eyes” wearing contact lenses, especially decorative ones. A normal lens for solving vision problems always makes the pupil enlarged. A decorative lens completely distorts the picture, and makes it almost impossible to decipher the look.

The same trouble and in case of use of the darkened sunglasses. Card players often use such a maneuver in order to keep their emotions invisible during the calculation of combinations of future moves.

3. The eyes of a sexually aroused person

Moments of sexual arousal or attraction are very visible. Observe: the pupils of an excited person are greatly enlarged, sometimes 4 times!

By the way, viewing pornographic pictures or films causes pupil dilation in women more pronounced than in men. This proves the tendency of the weaker sex to be suggestible and fantasize about intimate topics, no matter how they deny it.

Candlelight dinner will perfectly help the couple tune in to an intimate wave. Pupils in the dark will expand, obeying the laws of physiology, and, observing this process, each of the interlocutors subconsciously enters a state of increasing sexual arousal.

From time immemorial, nimble prostitutes, knowing this feature, dripped specially prepared belladonna into their eyes. This manipulation led to an increase in the size of the pupil, and the girl became more desirable in comparison with her competitors.

To visually enlarge the eyes, as in the example about babies, the fair sex connects the possibilities of cosmetics. Eyeliners and shadows help to achieve maximum expressiveness.

It is very difficult for a man to resist the wide-open gaze of huge eyes full of passion: before him at the same time there is an image of both an imperious seductress and a defenseless child in need of protection and guardianship.

Antimony (eyeliner) is also used by men! We are not talking about representatives of sexual minorities. A striking example is the well-known hero of the movie "Pirates of the Caribbean" Jack Sparrow.
The same maneuver was popular many years ago in India along with some Arab countries.

If modern women, summing up their eyes, demonstrate their weakness, then the intention of men is an expression of courage, fortitude and steadfastness in actions and decisions.

4. Eyes to watch out for

The so-called "Snake eyes" has a person who is in a negative mood or being angry. Sometimes, anger can cause a state of affect, when a person has little control over behavior, loses control of himself. The pupil in this state is maximally narrowed.

In a state of passion, a person is closed to communication, goes "into himself", is prone to aggressive behavior, can provoke conflict situations and even resort to physical violence. For example, the film "I've had enough!" ("I'm Going Home") starring Michael Douglas.

Also, always be on the lookout for a person who often squints. But, be careful! Almond-shaped or "fox" eye shape and squint are two different things. When a person squints at both eyes, he shows his extra caution, cunning and prudence. If only one eye squints, it may be just a suppressed wink.

5. National features of the look

Even ancient Chinese sellers of pearl products followed the expansion of the pupils of their buyers, agreeing on a reasonable price. This trait is passed down from generation to generation. Therefore, the inquisitive vigilant glances of the Chinese have not surprised or annoyed anyone for a long time.

The Japanese, on the contrary, consider direct eye contact as a violation of personal boundaries, and, when talking, look at the neck of the interlocutor. There is no need to look for hidden subtexts in such behavior: they do not hide their eyes and do not look at you "by the scruff" or neckline - they simply carry the centuries-old experience of their ancestors in communication into the future.

Southern Europeans look at the interlocutor with a high frequency: constantly, and for a long time holding their eyes, even “catching” the gaze of the person with whom the conversation is taking place. That is why, getting into the eastern Muslim countries, a European man, at first, is perplexed, observing the manner of communication of local women. By all means they avoid direct gaze.

Strict restrictions dictate minimal eye contact. Therefore, women have to skillfully master makeup techniques to attract the attention of a man to their person. But everything is simple and clear: Gulchatay looked at the guy 2 and a half times - you can send matchmakers!

6. A lifeless movie stunt

In cinematography, they sometimes use a special “trick” when you need to show a completely immoral character who knows how to lie and savor his lies at the same time. This complex complex includes a whole sequence of actions. The person immediately looks into the eyes of the interlocutor, then looks away, “stretches” a smile and filters the words of lies through clenched teeth. At the same time, he rubs his eyelid with his finger. This is how it is customary in films to illustrate the ability to “lie through your teeth”. Interestingly, in real life, such a combination almost never occurs. But, the technique has become entrenched and is effectively used by directors.

7. The eyes of the “prince hunter”

Many characters, even from children's cartoons and fairy tales, teach girls how to charm a man who is interested.

If most of them are limited to just frequent flapping of eyelashes and a “sticky” look, then in the fairy tale “Cinderella” a simply amazing scheme is voiced. Cinderella's stepmother, when she teaches her marriageable daughters how to attract the prince's attention, indicates the trajectory of the gaze: "... look into the corner - at the floor - at the object." The screen version, of course, is exaggerated. But, if you perform these maneuvers delicately and in a timely manner, the effect will not be long in coming.

The fact is that such a combination forms a kind of funnel. Such a Bermuda triangle, where a guy can be dragged forever! But there are also small nuances. Sometimes, you need to start playing with your eyes precisely from the object, and then, when attention is drawn, you should start to look away to the floor and, then, only to the corner. The person gets the impression that he is being secretly watched. There is a moment of mystery, intrigue - a man wakes up with excitement and a desire to be involved in this barely perceptible game. This works especially well when there are a lot of people around. The couple is surrounded by dozens of eyes, but only the two of them have some kind of common secret, an intimate game that no one else sees ...

8. Playing "Peepers"

And now a few words about the benefits of a "brazen" look. We all remember the game from childhood, the condition of which was to look into the eyes of another person for as long as possible without looking away. Whoever looked away or blinked first lost.

This children's game, as well as the adult game "Mafia", is an excellent psychological training for people with low self-esteem or poorly developed leadership skills. In this situation, such "peepers" are very effective.

It is recommended to conduct classes while in transport. Since hard, assertive eye-to-eye contact is a strong irritant, people can react in different ways. Sometimes, quite aggressively. Therefore, being in transport, it is easier to do this. The bus has left and you won't see this stranger again.

Want to try? When driving past a stop, find yourself a “victim”, catch a glance and hold until the person disappears from view. And so you need to do along the entire route of your path. Make it a daily habit on your way to and from work.

For wild animals, this technique helps to determine the attacker in the fight and even the leader for pack predators.

9. Learn from the HR manager

Every company with ambitious goals spares no time and expense to find its own HR (human resources) specialist. This term appeared not so long ago, but quickly and confidently took the leading position among requests and vacancies on job sites. In simple terms, this is a competent HR manager.

The company is trying to hire a candidate who can understand by sight:
- how the interlocutor is configured;
- the person's true reaction to the information provided;
- the true intentions of a competitor or candidate for the position;
- the reasons for the incomprehensible behavior of subordinates.

And why not take a few lessons from the pros and learn how to analyze such moments in everyday life?

Lesson #1

60-70% of the time of communication is accompanied by persistent visual contact with you - a person is interested in your location, wants to establish a good relationship.

Lesson number 2.

Does the person constantly close their eyelids while listening to you (slow blinking)? This means that he feels superior to you, conversation and company are not interesting to him or even regarded as threatening. Wants to quickly remove you from sight, erase from memory. The action of the eyelids at the same time resembles the work of wipers on the windshield of a car - one stroke, and no trace of annoying precipitation.

Such a look can be combined with a head thrown back, demonstrating arrogance and inaccessibility. This position does not bode well. Therefore, depending on your goals, either interrupt the conversation and postpone it until better times, or find aspects in which the opponent is very interested. He will be forced, at least temporarily, to change his anger to mercy.

But! If the eyelids are constantly covered in a person who does not listen, but speaks, this is a pronounced attempt to hide his lie. “I don’t see this as a problem,” the man says and closes his eyelids. So - very much even sees! But, he does not intend to do anything with this problem, even to discuss it.

Lesson number 3.

They look at you over glasses - a biased assessment, criticism and condemnation. The man understands this very well. Therefore, if he is benevolent, he will definitely take off his glasses when speaking and put them on when listening.

People with poor eyesight perceive information better when wearing glasses: they catch micro facial expressions, demonstrate involvement, as if mentally saying: “I have become all ears.”

Lesson number 4.

The person with whom you are talking has directed his gaze to your forehead, above the eyebrows, is set to serious negotiations ( business look).

At the same time, it is very important:

- keeps his eyes at this level constantly - does not agree to deviate from his goal a single step,

- periodically the gaze falls below the level of your eyes - you can persuade your opponent to your advantage. A person shows signs of readiness for interaction with the help of the so-called social view.

Lesson number 5.

If the gaze passes the line of the eyes and falls below: the chin, neck, chest, waist, crotch - this intimate look. Men and women who sympathize with each other communicate with such signals.

But you need to understand that the look, like clothes, should always be in place. If you look at the boss with a relentless businesslike look, begging for after-school leave, then the attempts are unlikely to succeed. The boss will feel uncomfortable in a situation that dictates uncompromisingness and requires a unified response.

And the social view is completely inappropriate if you want to present serious claims or accusations to a person. You look like you're apologizing for what you said.

With an intimate look, you also need to be careful. A man may not even notice it. But a woman will definitely catch, decipher, and can get away from communication if her plans at the moment do not include this kind of closeness at all.

10. Look and wind rose (8 directions)

There is a clear classification of deciphering information according to a person's gaze relative to his direction vector. To make it clearer - imagine the "Wind Rose". It is these main 8 directions that are described.

Usually, people roll their eyes up, on two occasions. If they want to show their annoyance at the moment (you got me). Or, when the situation is difficult and such a gesture replaces the phrase: “Heavens alone know how this will all end.”

TO THE UPPER RIGHT CORNER

If a person looks up and to the right, he remembers visual information. The key word here is "remember". That is, his answer will be based on what he actually saw before. For example, a person claims to have lost a folder with his report, but they do not believe him. Suffice it to ask what his folder looked like. If the eye goes to the upper right corner, then the folder really exists. Any other options mean that a person is hiding behind a lie for his own purposes.

STRONG RIGHT

This zone denotes memories associated with sound: words, melodies, songs. To make it clearer, a person will look in this direction, considering the answer to the questions: “What did they tell you about this?”, “Sing me a melody from this song”, “What do you like to listen to from the classics?”. That is, it is sound information perceived earlier.

A person could indeed hear the information being asked about, but have forgotten by this time. Then his eyes may begin to run, but, initially, nevertheless, his gaze will rush to the right.

TO THE LOWER RIGHT CORNER

This line of sight is especially important at the time of negotiations or conflicts. When a person looks like this, he demonstrates unshakable confidence in his words or position. Even if he is wrong, there is not the slightest point in arguing here.

People who look down during a conversation are either ashamed of something, or hiding something, they are lying. And often at the same time: they lie and are immediately ashamed of their behavior.

TO THE UPPER LEFT

A person who looks into this zone fantasizes. Calls up visual images never seen before. Consequently, he either lies when answering a question (for example: “What did the thief you saw look like?”), Or simply invents an image in response to a request (for example: “Describe our planet in 50 years”).

STRONG LEFT

This position indicates the fantasy of sound information. A person either lies, inventing plausible combinations of words, or these are creative impulses: writing poetry, prose, music. Here, again, the specific situation is important.

TO THE LOWER LEFT CORNER

This direction of gaze is responsible for real memories of smells, tastes and tactile sensations. This is how a person who is asked to describe their taste of mango or the smell of night flowers will look.

It is worth stopping at an important point. The gaze directions considered here are those of the person you are analyzing, not you! It will be HIS right-left, not yours.

Finally

87 percent of all information enters the brain center through visual receptors. Learn to feel the situation and read the eyes. Many issues will begin to resolve themselves.

Important information needs to be voiced precisely at the moments of “contact” of views. Does the interlocutor look away? Attract attention with the "Mirror" technique. Gently repeat after the person his movements, postures, copy gestures. This will unwittingly force him to scrutinize you. Use it. Lost contact again? Shut up or say something loudly, as if inadvertently.

But, if 2/3 of the time the interlocutor hides his eyes, despite your sophisticated tricks, there is no need to waste time.

Reasons for this behavior:
- he does not want to communicate now in general or specifically with you;
- the topic is unpleasant or uninteresting to him;
- he does not agree with the information he hears;
- he saw something more significant for him at the moment.

It's impossible to have a constructive conversation. It's worth retreating.

This little tutorial will help you understand a person by the movement of his eyes. Our eyes cannot lie, unlike our tongues.

Usually our eyes "follow" our thoughts, and sometimes, just by looking into our eyes, other people can understand what we are thinking about, writes hypnosiscontrol.com. Surely you will agree that reading the thoughts of another person in his eyes is a very useful skill? Thanks to this, everyone will be able to understand whether they are being deceived or determine whether your interlocutor is interested in what you are telling him about. This useful skill is perfect for poker players.

"Eyes to eyes". Such contact with the interlocutor indicates that he is very interested in talking with you. Prolonged eye contact may indicate that the person is scared and/or doesn't trust you. Brief eye contact - the person is worried and/or not interested in talking to you. And the complete lack of eye contact indicates the complete indifference of your interlocutor to your conversation.

man looking up. Raised eyes are a sign of contempt, sarcasm or irritation directed at you. In most cases, such a "gesture" means a manifestation of condescension.

If a person looks in the upper right corner, he visually represents the picture stored in memory. Ask someone to describe the appearance of a person, and your interlocutor will certainly raise his eyes up and look to the right.

If a person averts eyes to the upper left corner, this indicates that he is visually trying to imagine something. When we try to use our imagination to visually “draw” some kind of picture, we raise our eyes up and look to the left.

If your interlocutor is looking to the right, which means he is trying to remember something. Try to ask someone to remember the melody of the song, and the person will definitely glance to the right.

looking to the left people invent sounds. When a person imagines a sound or composes a new melody, he looks to the left. Ask someone to imagine the sound of a car horn underwater and they will invariably look to the left.

If your interlocutor lowers his eyes and looks to the right, this person is conducting a so-called "internal" dialogue with himself. Your interlocutor may be pondering something you said, or may be contemplating what to say next.

If a person lowers his eyes down and looks to the left, he thinks about his impression received from something. Ask the interlocutor how he feels on his birthday, and before answering you, the person lowers his eyes and looks to the left.

Lowering your eyes, we show that we do not feel very comfortable or even embarrassed. Often, if a person is shy or does not want to talk, he lowers his eyes. In Asian culture, not looking a person in the eye, looking down when talking to an interlocutor is the norm.
These "rules" are usually followed by all of us. But the left-hander does the opposite: the right-hander looks to the right, the left-hander looks to the left, and vice versa.

How to determine that you are lying?

There is no absolutely correct algorithm by which you can determine whether your interlocutor is lying or not. The best option is to ask an elementary question, for example, “what color is your car?”. If a person raises his eyes and looks to the right (or to the left if he is left-handed), then he can be trusted. Thus, in the future you can understand whether they are deceiving you or not.
For example, when telling you about what happened in class, your friend looks to the right; talking about his holidays, he constantly raises his eyes up and glances to the right. Most likely, everything he said is true. But when he shares his impressions with you about a beautiful girl he met the other day, and his eyes are fixed on the upper left corner, you can conclude that he is clearly “embellishing”.
By learning to control his gaze, a person can make others believe him unconditionally. (How can you lie, looking a person straight in the eye?)