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The final resting places have always attracted attention, it is not surprising that cemetery superstitions are so numerous. What can the secret signs that otherworldly forces send us in a mournful place warn about? We understand the issue.

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Signs in the cemetery - what can be done

There are many superstitions associated with this place. All rules of conduct are required. You can’t come empty-handed - bread and other treats, leave them on the grave.

alcohol at funerals

It is forbidden to come to the resting place of thousands of people while intoxicated. It is also unacceptable to drink alcohol at a funeral.

Moreover, alcohol loosens the tongue, and in the cemetery it is better to follow the words so as not to offend the dead. For the repose of the soul, drink at the wake.

What should I say

There is such a sign:

Whatever good you say on the grave, it will remain on it.

With deceased relatives, you can share experiences and joys, while you should not arouse envy or excessive pity in them. Because in both cases, they will want to take the speaker to themselves. A phrase like "I'm living so badly, it's better to die" can become fatal. Spirits will regard this as a call to action and "come to the aid" of the suffering, who is so eager to get into the other world.

We must remember that you can afford to be open only with that relative who was trusted during his lifetime and with whom he was close. If you talk loudly and brag about your victories on someone else's grave, then all the good things will go to the relatives of its inhabitant.

Refrain from sorting out relationships and swearing among the graves. The sign says that whoever comes to the cemetery to quarrel will live in eternal squabbles.

Is it possible to take things from the grave

Of course not. Remember this rule yourself and explain it to the children: the house is the territory of the living, and everything that is in the cemetery belongs to this place. Taking anything from there is a very bad omen.

Bringing graveyard soil is like recognizing your home as part of a cemetery. For spirits, it will be "marked" as their sphere of influence. It will take the help of a very strong magician to clear the dwelling from the grave seal.

To raise something from the grave means to take this thing away from the dead. And the dead are very jealous of what belongs to them.

Is it possible to count money in a cemetery

There is another well-known sign: if you count the money on the grave, you will part with it forever. Bills fell out - do not touch them. Even a large amount, let it lie.

If you raise money from the cemetery land, due to your negligence and greed, you can accumulate problems and illnesses and spend much more money on their solution than you could leave.

I had to get a wallet at the cemetery - leave the coins on the grave. Better at the gravestone of a relative or at least namesake.

Is it possible to take pictures at the cemetery

Most signs say that it is impossible, since this is a place of accumulation of negative energy. A mystical connection between a person and his image in the photo is known - the image will leave an imprint of all the negative of this place.

If you capture yourself in the realm of the dead, you will either draw them to you, or you yourself will soon go there.

It is especially reckless to take a picture near the coffin with the deceased, as well as on graves younger than forty days old. It has long been known that this period is not accidental, that is how long the negative energy that was released during the death of a person is preserved. The soul of the deceased is among the living, not finding peace. The consequences of such a photo can be disastrous - up to the appearance of serious diseases.

It is believed that the memories of this belief have been preserved since ancient times in the word "term". “The term has expired” means forty days have passed.

Photographing can disturb the souls of people buried in the graves that fell into the frame. They will return to their home or come to the person who took the photo. In this case, it is quite possible to encounter.

The cemetery is used not only for the burial of the dead. This is one of the main places for black rites. Here , they ask , and the witches are here . It is saturated with powerful negative information that will remain in the picture.

It doesn't matter if it's a paper photo or an electronic one. The second option is even worse, because digital images are easily copied. Don't post them online.

Storing "dead" images is fraught with a deterioration in the atmosphere in the home, household illnesses and the appearance of problems in relationships, money issues and other aspects. Children especially suffer from such sources of negativity - they are more susceptible to magical attacks than adults.

If there are already similar photos in the house, and there is no desire to part with them, despite the bad omens, keep them face down, so that the image is not visible. You can pack the source of the negative in a tight envelope.

Signs at the funeral and cemetery

Seeing off the last journey is a very serious event. :

• stand not in black attire, but in white or multi-colored;
• speak loudly, show disrespect to the deceased;
• take any things from the coffin (even if the deceased promised to give them during his lifetime);
• tell stories that are not related to the theme of the event;
• speak badly about the dead;
• wear open shoes (bare toes, heel).

To get rid of the negative energy of the place, you should take a bottle of holy water with you and wash your face, hands and feet at the exit. You can only leave the cemetery the way you came.

Sign - if you fell in a cemetery

This sign indicates that the fallen person is drawn to the grave ground, and possibly to him. Anyone who fell at a funeral must urgently leave the cemetery. After that, over it you need to read the prayer three times “ Our Father”, wash with holy water and baptize with a church burning candle.

If a monument fell in a cemetery

In this case, they say that it is the restless soul of the deceased that makes itself felt. If a person is holding something in this world, he will try to figure out what is the reason for the delay.

Perhaps the deceased has an unfinished mission or he needs to protect relatives or friends from something - the spirit will try in every possible way to contact them. A fallen monument is a clear sign that the soul wants to be heard. You should seek help from a medium and find out what a relative needs.

A cat at a funeral is a bad omen

In ancient Egypt, cats were considered intermediaries between the living and the dead. According to legend, these animals could speak on behalf of the deceased and even temporarily be a haven for his soul.

There should be no pets in the room where the deceased lies. This is especially true for cats. As soon as a misfortune happened, they need to be taken out of the house. And even better - for some time to send to live with relatives.

The cat is torn back - to the new dead. It is especially dangerous if the animal lies down to sleep under the coffin with the deceased. This suggests that another grief will happen in the family soon.

It is better to drive away an animal that has joined the procession, but show respect to it. Do not kick or push - someone's spirit may come in his image. Throw aside the present, which is not a pity - pay off.

If a cat jumps on the deceased or the lid of the coffin, this portends the death of the closest person to the deceased. In some countries, it is believed that this behavior of a cat indicates a terrible prediction in the form of a vampire or ghoul for the deceased.

Much depends on the color of the cat met on the churchyard. Of course, signs pay special attention to black individuals. It is believed that in their guise there may be a witch or a necromancer magician. According to ancient legends, they are receptacles for the souls of sinners. The white cat is the embodiment of a righteous man who has not completed some work in the world of the living. But meeting with him does not bode well, it is a sign of illness or serious danger.

Jesus called people do not mourn dead. After all, their souls were resurrected in a new life, in another world. But some people believe in magic and superstition, various beliefs, adhere to rituals that are very far from the Christian faith.

• You can not often go to the cemetery and take a long walk between the graves and monuments. This is what some fortune-tellers and psychics advise, as well as people who are far from the true Christian faith. They say that the spirit of death hovers there, a very bad energy that sucks strength from the living. This thesis is especially seized upon by urban residents who justify their busyness, laziness, forgetfulness, disregard for history and indifference to the memory of deceased ancestors, relatives and friends.

• Pregnant women and small children should not go to the funeral and visit the cemetery. In general, those who sincerely and consciously want and are ready to do this should go to the funeral ceremony, to the memorial service and to the cemetery. It is necessary to visit the graves of deceased loved ones not with despair and the thought that we are leaving a loved one in the earth, but with the thought that a person should be released to heaven. Indeed, according to the Christian faith man dies to find a new life

• Coming home with cemeteries, you should thoroughly wash all the clothes that were worn on you, wipe your shoes and wash yourself. Some even wash their hands at the exit from the cemetery, and when they come home, even before the gate, they carefully clean and dust off their shoes and clothes, wash their hands with soap and even hold their shoes over a burning church candle for several minutes.

• Any wound that was received on the territory of the cemetery heals for a long time and the person may die. If fortunetellers and psychics talk about all sorts of phantoms, the cult of death, the impact of bad energy and the astral plans of the dead, then doctors and sanitary epidemiologists note hygiene and disinfection because of the danger of infection.

• Nothing can be taken with you from the cemetery, even expensive and valuable things. It is forbidden to take flowers home for seedlings (not even from graves, but simply from alleys and flower beds), scarves and towels taken from cross or wreaths. Therefore, you can take on other people's troubles and illnesses. Many people believe that a beautiful bouquet of natural or artificial flowers from a tombstone can be taken not only by a drunkard to sell for 100 grams of vodka, but also by some kind of “grandmother” who will put it in the yard or put it on sale with witchcraft conspiracies to take away from sickness on someone else, to bring damage ...

• If you accidentally dropped something in the cemetery, in no case should you pick it up from the ground. This is superstition and prejudice - do not believe that in this way you will prolong your life and avoid diseases. Those who practice witchcraft deliberately leave money or a golden thing on the side of the grave. For someone to take and take on other people's misfortunes. And if documents, a mobile phone, car keys, a bag, glasses fell? Simply wipe with a damp cloth. We are all not eternal, and faith, hope, positive thinking, a healthy lifestyle will help to continue our years.

• If you were at the graves, and it seemed to you that someone called, then you need to cross yourself three times and say: “My God, save me, a servant of God (give your full name), save and have mercy! Amen!" Do not be afraid of being called in cemeteries. No one is going to take you to the next world. After all, on the Memorial week, on the Wires, on the Parents' Days, here you can not only communicate with the deceased ancestors, relatives and friends, but also see many friends - the whole city or village. In addition, old acquaintances, childhood friends, distant relatives whom you have not seen for many years can come to your native graves ...

• On the memorial week no food can be taken from the graves, as they are intended for the deceased. The Church believes that it is better to donate, including food, Easter cakes, colored eggs and others, to the living - to the poor, weak, needy, unfortunate people, those who need help. Donations can be brought to the temple, given to beggars.

• A glass of vodka for the dead is placed on the grave, which is covered with a piece of bread. The dead do not need vodka - they need a permissive prayer, the priests say. Some priests note that it is a great sin to commemorate the dead with vodka. It's like dooming his soul to a bitter path and hellfire. No wonder the old people said that "vodka burns the dead." The tradition of pouring a glass of vodka on the grave at the feet of the deceased is not Christian either.

• At the cemetery you need to walk only in the afternoon before sunset. Indeed, after sunset and at night, mostly asocial elements, alcoholics, the homeless, other bad people who do evil to others - thieves of flowers and non-ferrous metal go to the cemetery; hooligans, vandals, satanists, sorcerers, sorcerers, black magicians.

When deceased relatives very often dream, and you wake up from this, then go to church, light a candle and order the remembrance of your relatives. Think about it, maybe it's your conscience that gnaws at you. What did you do wrong to them and how can you fix it? If it's too late to fix something, think about what you can change in your life to become better, happier... Ask for forgiveness, let go of terrible thoughts and leave only bright memories in your memory...

After the death of a loved one, you want to visit the cemetery more often in order not to break that thin thread that still binds you. But life demands its own: little by little, the visit to the cemetery is reduced and at some point one has to state the fact that the last visit was a very long time ago. And this thought appears, dousing from head to toe with a “cold shower”. This is not your fault. This is a life that gradually dulls the pain, involves in a whirlpool of events and a series of days passing by. It was then that quite reasonable questions arise: when should one visit the cemetery, how often should this be done. And are there any traditions and customs in which it is necessary to visit the cemetery.

Compulsory visit to the grave of the deceased

For relatives and friends of the deceased, there are days when it is necessary to visit the grave. This is the third, ninth, and also the fortieth day after the death of a person, it is also necessary to visit the grave on the anniversary of the death of a person. On such days, it is customary to order a memorial service for the deceased in the church, and then go to the cemetery to visit his grave. There people remember him, "talk to him" and pray for his soul.

However, there is a day when all people who have lost their relatives and acutely feel their absence must visit the cemetery. Such a day is called Radonitsa or Parent's Day, which follows a week from Easter and is celebrated on Monday or Tuesday. These days they commemorate the dead, and also congratulate them on the Resurrection of the Lord. On Easter, visiting the graves is not recommended, except when this day coincides with the anniversary, the third, ninth or fortieth day.

The church has its own recommendations for visiting the graves of the dead. This should be done on the day of the angel of the deceased, as well as Dmitrievskaya and Trinity parental Saturdays. These are recommendations for visiting. But there are no restrictions on visiting the graves. Each person independently decides how, when and how many times to visit the grave of a loved one, how long to stay there, when to come and go. Such a visit to the grave is a special connection with the deceased and an opportunity for “communication” with him.

It is very important to remember that visiting the grave should also be for the purpose of restoring order on it, cleaning it of unnecessary plants, leaves, planting trees, as well as restoring the tombstone or returning it to cleanliness with a damp cloth or updating paint. It is necessary to honor the memory of relatives by precisely such care for their graves, and even the most luxurious bouquet on the anniversary of death will not make the grave more beautiful and tidy than the most ordinary care for it will do. If there is no opportunity to visit the cemetery often, you can order the service of grave care from specialized agencies.

Funeral dinners: a feature of the holding

A very important feature of memorial days is holding memorial dinners. And recently it has become important for many people to express their attitude towards this. There are people who commemorate the dead right at the cemetery, and there is a category of people who should point out to them that they are "doing wrong and intentionally insulting them." It is necessary to be tolerant of other people and their traditions. Everyone is equal in the cemetery, and if in their rules or according to their customs people are accustomed to commemorate directly in the cemetery, just walk past without squinting with an unkind look and without cursing through your teeth.

Some prefer to leave a glass of vodka or beer at the cemetery, cover it with a piece of bread, add sweets nearby, and on Easter week - krashenki. This is not forbidden by the church, but it is not encouraged by it either. It is very important to exclude the use of alcohol in the cemetery, because drunken visitors to the cemetery will prevent others from adequately commemorating the dead, and will simply interfere with others. So civilized Orthodox people do not do. This is not a commemoration, but a mockery of the memory of the deceased, which discredits both the drunk person and the memory of the deceased.

Visiting the grave should be for prayers for the soul of the deceased, "communication" with him, as well as putting the grave in order. The rest can be done at home.

Our funeral agency provides services for the care of the grave in the cemetery. We take care of the grave, put it in order after the winter, remove unnecessary vegetation, paint fences and tables with benches, and we can also bring fresh flowers on certain dates. The performance of the ordered works is confirmed by a detailed photo report, if necessary.

Ritual house "Rest" provides complex funeral services in Kyiv and the region around the clock, seven days a week.

In any European culture, great importance is given to honoring the memory of loved ones. Visiting cemeteries is obligatory for their relatives, and not only in order to clean up the grave, but also in order not to forget about a loved one, cope with his loss and remember all the good things that connected you with him.

In Russian culture, there is an unspoken set of rules and recommendations on how and when to visit cemeteries. Our today's material will tell you whether you can often come to the grave of a friend or relative, how to honor his memory, what holidays are suitable for a mournful visit, and also what beliefs exist associated with visiting the graves of loved ones.

How often should you visit the grave?

It is impossible not to come to visit the deceased - this will demonstrate your indifference. In addition, from time to time you need to put the grave in order - make sure the earth does not sag, plant flowers and plants for an attractive appearance, change faded wreaths and ribbons, clean and restore the monument (if it is made of wood or metal).

But it is not recommended to come to the cemetery often - folk beliefs are associated with this. Abuse of visiting the grave can negatively affect life and even bring illness. According to popular belief, pregnant women are not recommended to visit cemeteries - this can harm the baby and the expectant mother.

It is better to visit the cemetery once a season or on separate days. Non-religious people come to the graves of loved ones on Easter, the anniversary of death or May 9, and adherents of the Christian religion - on some church holidays and commemoration days.

Visiting days

The Orthodox religion has determined the days on which it is better to pay a visit to the cemetery:

• Immediately after the death of a friend or relative - 9 and 40 days after death. Also mentioned is the 3rd day, on which they are usually buried;
• Every death anniversary or birthday;
• Parental Saturdays - spring and autumn, as well as post-Easter Radonitsa - a church holiday on which all the dead are commemorated.

There are disputes over Easter - whether it is worth visiting the graves of loved ones on this day. Many religious people are against this practice, since the meaning of the holiday is joy, which does not correlate with grief and pain of loss. Therefore, it is recommended to postpone cemetery cares until Radonitsa - it falls on Tuesday 2 weeks after Easter.

How loved ones are remembered in the cemetery

Prepare the necessary set of tools in advance to put the grave in order. In the spring, undecayed leaves, debris are removed and weeds are pulled out, in the fall they cover the plants from the cold. The monument needs to be updated if it has been damaged mechanically or by moisture. Hang a new wreath or bring a bouquet of fresh flowers. You can plant fresh flowers - this is more aesthetically pleasing and looks like a touching gift to the deceased from loved ones.

At the table, you can arrange a small memorial meal. Taking alcohol with you or not is a matter of personal preference, in the national culture a glass of vodka for the dead is a common tradition, but not everyone will share it. Therefore, you can get by with tea, sweets and a light snack.

For Orthodox culture, there is traditionally great respect for the dead. In this regard, a special time is allocated at which people can honor the deceased relatives with prayer. Such days are called parental Saturdays, and in the church calendar there are seven such days in a year. Immediately make a reservation that we are not talking about the commemoration of purely parents. These days, all departed loved ones should be remembered, and not just blood relatives of the first line. Just traditionally, when people come to the cemetery, they seek the resting place of their loved ones. Therefore, over time, special days of remembrance of the dead were popularly called "parental", then this name acquired a completely official status.

Not all of us can afford to mark them all because of our busy work schedule, but the most important ones should not be skipped. These include two Ecumenical parental Saturdays, when the Orthodox honor all the departed Christians. The first such Saturday falls one week before the beginning of Great Lent, and the second - before Pentecost. Their dates change every year. What is done on parental day at the cemetery and how is it customary to celebrate?

One of the first questions that arise before a person who is not very knowledgeable in church customs is this: is it necessary to visit the cemetery on parental day. According to many clergy, this moment is important, but not dominant. The first thing a believing Christian should do on parental Saturday is to go to worship in the temple.

And first you need to go to church on Friday evening, on the eve of parental Saturday. At this time, a great memorial service is served there. And the next morning, go again to the house of God, where you will listen to the Divine Liturgy for the dead and then a common memorial service. This gives those who pray the opportunity to ask the Lord for mercy for the departed and forgiveness of their sins. In addition, it will be convenient to submit a note with the names of the dead so that they pray for their repose in the church.

Another tradition of parental days is the offering of food and wine to the temple. The former are used by priests to distribute alms to the poor and the homeless, whom each parish takes care of. And wine can later be used in the temple in order to celebrate the liturgy. Please note that parental days fall before fasting, so when choosing products that you plan to donate to the temple, give preference to Lenten ones.

Only after visiting the church can you go to the cemetery to commemorate the dead near the graves. There, first of all, light a church candle or a funeral lamp, which can be placed on a tombstone. Then pray for the deceased and be silent for a while, remembering him.

According to church tradition, going to the cemetery on this day is not a firm requirement. Many priests agree that this can be done on any other convenient day, without being particularly tied to specific dates. For our deceased relatives and friends, the memory of them and prayers for their repose are more important than some mechanically performed actions. But going to the temple on parental days is considered a stricter recommendation. Therefore, a person who wants to correctly honor the memory of his ancestors should postpone all plans in advance for two days at once - Friday evening and the first half of Saturday.

But even in the issue of obligatory church attendance on parental Saturday, concessions are possible for people who, for objective reasons, cannot attend the liturgy and memorial service. In this case, believers should retire to their home near the “red corner” (the place where the icons hang) and sincerely pray for the departed.

The main things on parental days are high thoughts and prayers of believers, the memory of the dead, and visiting the place of eternal rest is considered an important, but secondary action.

What to bring to the cemetery

Going to the burial places on parental day, you can, in principle, come empty-handed. It is important to capture only consecrated candles to light them on the grave. But since few of us cannot afford to come to the resting place of our relatives often, then, as a rule, if we decide to go there, we try to arrange a wide commemoration. At the same time, many make gross mistakes, because they do not know the rules about what they take to the cemetery on parental day.

First of all, it is permissible to take fresh funeral flowers to decorate the tombstone with them. At the same time, some priests do not recommend buying wreaths of artificial flowers to decorate graves, while others treat this issue condescendingly. The fact is that there are no special religious rules in this regard. Some clergy advise to refrain from artificial flowers, based solely on their non-environmental, and not some special religious taboos. Therefore, the issue with flowers remains at the discretion of each individual person.

Another thing is that there are a number of instructions regarding how to decorate a tombstone with flowers. The following rules have been adopted.

1. The number of flowers in a bouquet or wreath must be even.
2. Putting a bouquet is necessary with corollas of flowers to the head of the grave.
3. The color scheme of the buds is in restrained tones.

It is permissible to take some foodstuffs to the cemetery on parental days, in particular, sweets: cookies and sweets. Surely everyone saw the packages laid out on the graves with them inside, as many believe that by leaving sweets on the tombstone, they thereby “treat” their deceased relatives with them. Moreover, even such seemingly inappropriate things as stacks of poured vodka or other alcohol, as well as cigarettes, are often found on the graves. Priests call such offerings superstitions that have survived to this day since the days of paganism. Then such actions were considered the norm, but now such offerings from believing Orthodox Christians are unacceptable.

Food brought to the cemetery on parental days can be left, but not on the tombstones, but nearby - on special tables that are often set near the graves. This is done so that poor people can come, take culturally left food, and thus commemorate the deceased. Another argument expressed against bringing food to the graves is that it often becomes the prey of crows or stray dogs, of which there are quite a lot. They will only tear the package, take the candy wrappers and wrappers, litter.

It would be most reasonable not to even leave food near the grave, albeit on the table, but to distribute it to the poor, who usually ask for alms at the entrance to the territory. But in relation to the cigarettes and alcoholic beverages left at the cemetery, the church clearly speaks negatively.

No one was allowed to work

Parental Saturday is considered a day of mourning, since we must commemorate the dead, but it is not physically forbidden to work. Therefore, it is quite acceptable to tidy up a little on the graves and near them. This is not about general cleaning, but about how to correct the appearance: you may need to remove weeds, change wilted flowers.

It is recommended to do a lot of tidying up in advance in order to devote time on parental day to prayers and thoughts about the resting relatives. As a rule, people put things in order at the cemetery after winter, as soon as the snow has melted and the earth has dried out. Then by the parent day there will no longer be a need to do a large amount of work.

Also, this day can be devoted to creative activities. In particular, it is allowed to do such work as mow the lawn if it is planted, whitewash trees or plant seedlings.

Most often, such flowers are planted near the graves.

Bulbous flowers are good for the cemetery because they are not capricious and beautiful. Their disadvantages include the fact that they bloom mainly in spring and early summer. And also in the fall they must be dug up in order to re-plant next spring. It will be much easier with unpretentious annuals, such as marigolds, or with chrysanthemums and other perennials that do not require special care. The only condition: choose undersized varieties of flowers so that they do not obscure the tombstone and monument. On parental day, it is also allowed to tint the fence, fix the cross, if necessary.

But what cannot be done categorically in a cemetery is to leave garbage behind. This is a show of disrespect not only to the dead, but also to the living who come there to visit their deceased relatives. And such a strict rule applies not only to parental days.

What should be done at the wake

One of the most pressing issues that confuses many modern people concerns how to commemorate on parental day at the cemetery. Such a phenomenon is quite common when people come to the resting places to remember their loved ones, and as a result, the commemoration smoothly flows into real festivities. The clergy consider such behavior in the cemetery to be unacceptable on any day of the year, and not just on parental days.

It is permissible to commemorate the dead near the grave, you can sip a little alcohol and eat it with a small amount of food. But this is where the commemoration should end. You need to eat at home, and not in a cemetery, where it is better to indulge in thoughts about the eternal life of the soul and prayers.

It is allowed to wear products such as pancakes, colored eggs, Easter, kutya on parental days at the cemetery. Such food would be appropriate for a modest commemoration. You can bring alcohol to the cemetery, but it is recommended to use it in extremely small quantities. Moreover, if a person has problems with alcohol and a strong desire to drink, then the priests advise, on the contrary, to restrain his impulse and commemorate only with food, thereby paying tribute to the deceased. In addition, during a small memorial meal, it is unacceptable to raise glasses and clink glasses with them, proclaiming toasts - this is bad form. After you have commemorated the deceased, do not forget to carefully clean up after yourself so that the scattered scraps do not attract the attention of stray dogs to the grave. And even more so, do not pour the remnants of alcoholic beverages onto the mound.

Also, some people are concerned about the question of how to behave properly in the cemetery on parental Saturday, so as not to incur discontent among others. This day is considered mourning by Orthodox Christians, and therefore you need to behave accordingly: do not talk loudly and do not laugh out loud. Still, the place itself is not conducive to a fun picnic. Therefore, modesty and calmness in behavior will be most appropriate. The best way to remember the dead is to pray with a lit candle in your hands. If possible, invite a priest to the grave to perform litia (this is a short funeral service).

Sometimes it seems difficult to understand the traditions associated with the remembrance of the dead because of the layering of religious rules on pagan beliefs. Unfortunately, the latter turned out to be quite strong and, to some extent, even became part of the Russian mentality. Therefore, many misconceptions are still common, such as offering a cup to the deceased.

To finally understand this or that question about the rules, you can seek advice from a priest who will gladly tell you how to do it right during a particular religious holiday. As for the very choice of the day when to commemorate relatives, it is not necessary to do this on church dates. The clergy say that you can come to the cemetery at any convenient time. In particular, remember on the birthday of the deceased or on the day of his angel.