I don't believe in myself or my powers. Self-confidence is an essential attribute of a successful person.

You probably also noticed that people in the bulk are divided into two groups: those who believe in themselves and their strengths, and those who simply do not have this faith. Some achieve success in life, while others, folding their paws, go with the flow in the hope that fate itself will lead them to the right path. If you don’t want to spend your whole life as a “crammed into a corner” person, but want to do serious things, solve important tasks and be able to achieve considerable heights in life, then we recommend that you, first of all, learn to believe in yourself. And we will tell you how to do this in our article today.

Think about life easier. Even without going into psychological nuances, purely logical thinking can come to the conclusion that self-belief directly proportionally affects our choice and our conclusions about a particular task or problem.

There is a very striking example of this, called "School task". This experiment was carried out by the famous psychologist Albert Bandura. So, what did he do: he gathered students in two classes, in each of which there were both "excellent students" and "losers" (that is, from the point of view of the mental component, they were equally strong). In addition, the students were from the same class (only different subgroups). After that, he asked each group to solve one and the same problem, however, in the first group, he mentioned that the task was extremely difficult, and in the second, on the contrary, he said that the task was very easy and even for the weakest students it would not cause problems.

The results of this experiment were as follows: in the group in which it was reported that the task was extremely difficult, most of the students quickly gave up and did not solve the problem. And the group in which they mentioned the ease of solving the problem, most of the students, on the contrary, solved this problem. Moreover, even the weakest students did not give up, continuing to stubbornly seek a solution, despite the lack of knowledge, and many of them succumbed to the task!

This experiment clearly showed how people react to difficulties. If they already at a subconscious level give themselves a signal that this problem is practically unsolvable, then they will immediately poke in front of it, because they do not believe in themselves and their strengths. But it turns out that any life problem has a simple solution, the main thing is to treat it, in no way, as an extremely complex task, but as a simple situation. The easier you perceive life, the faster you will believe in yourself and learn to achieve any heights in this life.

Build on the experience of your peers. Sometimes the lack of faith in ourselves is due to the fact that we begin to compare ourselves with other people who also failed to solve such a problem. As a rule, we say to ourselves something like this phrase: “Well, if he didn’t succeed! I certainly won't be able to!" So to speak and think, at least - is stupid. Remember that you are a unique person who cannot be like the rest in either abilities or skills. What doesn't work for others doesn't mean it won't work for you. Never give up early! And if you decide to compare yourself with another person, then consider him and your experience in a particular area.

Remember your good experience. Sometimes, in order to believe in yourself and start achieving results, you just need to remember your successful experience in this area. For example, if you do not believe that you will be able to win a competition in a big tournament, then try to look into your past, in which you will see a lot of victories. And think about it: people just don’t get into big tournaments. Naturally, past success does not guarantee future success, but the past can give you confidence and hope, and this is enough to get a considerable chance of winning. It is on personal experience that we consider our chances, so if you want to inspire confidence in your strengths, remember your past SUCCESSFUL experience.

Raise the bar to believe in yourself. We begin to respect ourselves and believe in ourselves only when we do something beyond our capabilities. After all, you will not be proud if you beat a small child who has just learned the basics of this game in chess?! But you will be extremely happy when a strong grandmaster loses to you. It is so?! So, so that faith in yourself never disappears, you need to gradually raise your bar. Belief in yourself, or as it is also called - "self-efficacy", can grow along with the complication of the tasks that you solve. But most importantly, by solving problems of a more complex nature, you become an even more successful person!

It is more difficult to survive a childhood or teenage defeat. You can never compare yourself in the present tense, with yourself in childhood. If you were unable to build relationships with girls in your youth, this does not mean that there will be problems in adulthood. Difficulties can arise only if you assure yourself that you still do not deserve the attention of the beautiful half of humanity, for some reason. We agree that it is very difficult to believe in ourselves in childhood, because in many ways we cannot soberly relate ourselves to an already established person, as a result of which children and adolescents are hard to bear defeats, and self-confidence can be lost for several years.

Consider your capabilities when evaluating the solution to a life problem. In order not to be disappointed in yourself once again, you should not sometimes impose on yourself more than you can actually take. Try to take on things that are real. For example, it is silly to plan to become a dollar millionaire in a month, if today you don’t earn even one thousand, and you don’t have a plan as such either. The more often you call on common sense to make a decision, the less you will find yourself in situations that turned out to be too tough for you. Often, self-confidence disappears after numerous defeats, and vice versa, it can manifest itself after several victories, it follows that, in order to cheer yourself up and believe in your strength, sometimes it is enough to get a few, albeit small, but victories.

Someone else's opinion affects self-confidence. Man is a creature that lives in a flock (society), he cannot live without him. Therefore, for each of us, the opinion of society has a certain value. Sometimes someone else's opinion becomes more important than even your own. As a result of this, every phrase spoken to a person is capable of changing him, and mean people use this, throwing offensive words and as a result: not just anger at the offender arises, but disappointment in oneself, faith in one’s beauty, quick wit, mind, etc. .P. If you are also dependent on someone else's opinion, then you will never be able to believe in yourself and your strength!

If you want to believe in yourself, consult with authorities. You will not be able to completely get rid of someone else's influence, and there is no need for this as such, because you need to remain a partially trusting person, but you only need to trust people who are authorities for you in this or that matter. However, do not create for yourself an idol who understands everything. Each person is capable of being an expert in two or three areas, no more. If he gives advice, already going beyond his knowledge, then it is no longer necessary to listen to them. So, if an authoritative person declares that you are really good at what you do, and everyone else (friends, acquaintances and relatives) has the opposite opinion, then it is better to listen to an independent expert.

Learn to prioritize correctly. Not in all cases you should be the best, and even more so, not all tasks require your decision. It is very important to understand what plays a dominant role in your life, what is secondary, and what does not matter at all. We often try to solve a lot of things at the same time, thus taking on an overwhelming burden, and instead of solved problems, we have a lot of failures that depress us. But the worst thing in these situations is that we manage to saddle up unnecessary things, while important ones remain unresolved, as a result we have a bad mood, low self-esteem and lost faith in ourselves.

Communicate more often with successful and positive people. As we mentioned above, each person requires social activity, one of the manifestations of this very activity is communication, the emotional consciousness of a person directly depends on it. If we communicate with evil, envious and generally negatively inclined people, then no matter how much we would like it, we ourselves will begin to become the same. Therefore, if you do not want this, but rather strive for success and acceptance of faith in yourself, then, first of all, you need to change your environment. Try to spend more time with people who are successful and set up for an active life position.

Avoid stress. Stress is a very insidious state for a person, since on the one hand, it is an emotional state that is common for every person to experience. However, on the other hand, it has an extremely negative effect, in case of illness or depression. Let's take our example. A person who already has low self-esteem does not believe in himself, and then a stressful situation occurs that can bring a person to a nervous breakdown, after which a number of human health problems will appear.

Lead a healthy lifestyle. A healthy person, as a rule, does not experience problems with self-confidence, since he always has a “fresh head”, which allows him to take a sober look at things and the world around him. He does not panic from defeats, but perceives them as another life experience, which will later come in handy for similar situations. After all, only those who do nothing do not make mistakes.

We wish you to always believe in yourself, your strength and always achieve your goals!

How to believe in yourself? How to believe in your abilities? In order to answer these questions, I present to your attention a very useful article (in two parts). It is about how a person can gain a firm belief in himself, that he can achieve anything he wants.

Belief in one's own strength is extremely important. The belief that you are able to achieve the end result in spite of any obstacles opens up a huge world of opportunities for you.

I wish you a pleasant, inspiring and useful reading ... I am sure that in this article you will find the answer to the question: "How to believe in yourself?"

Translation: Balezin Dmitry

How to believe that you are able to achieve anything you want?

The phrase "You can achieve anything if you believe in it" has become so worn out that people simply avert their eyes when they hear it. They tried and they didn't succeed.

That's just a few quotes on this topic:

— To succeed, we must first believe that we are capable of it.;

— Your faith determines your actions and your actions determine your results, but first you must believe.
(Mark Victor Nansen);

— Don't limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they are capable of. You can go where your mind can go. Remember what you believe in is what you can achieve.
(Mary Kay Ash);

— Believe You Can Succeed and You Will Succeed
(Dale Carnegie);

— What the human mind is capable of knowing and imagining, that it is able to achieve
(Napoleon Hill);

Notice how these people are essentially saying the same thing: if you believe in something, you can achieve it. Well, let me agree with that with all my heart. However, I think they are missing one very important part, which is this:

How to believe in yourself?

It's not enough to say, "Believe it and it will happen!" I hate with the passion of a thousand suns advice that is given to us without proper explanation or without guidelines we can follow to apply it.

I believe that the reason we cannot believe in our own abilities is that we have never done it.

I mean what we never really formed our own faith (our own beliefs).

Think about it.

Look behind the source of your beliefs and beliefs regarding religion, politics, money, society and the world at large. You will find that most of your beliefs are rooted outside of you, coming from your parents, friends, or the media.

"Don't talk to strangers - they're bad"
“Money is the root of evil” (Actually, the root of evil is the love of money)
“If you don’t do well in school, you won’t achieve anything in life”
"You have to go to college to get a good job"

Most people have never made their own beliefs, these beliefs we were fed from the cradle.

It's time to take responsibility for your own beliefs.

In order to understand how to believe in something, let's study the process of creating some of the most powerful beliefs (beliefs) that people have. I'm talking about religious beliefs and politics.

Beliefs and beliefs rooted in religion and politics are EXTREMELY powerful.

Because of them, there were splits in families.
Because of them, World Wars were fought.
Millions of lives have been taken from them.
Because of them, men and women went so far as to sacrifice their lives.

It is clear that the power of human beliefs in the realm of religion and politics and their impact on our lives is beyond question.

If we could analyze the process of creating these beliefs (beliefs) and apply it to create our own beliefs, then we could achieve everything that we wanted.

How are these beliefs formed?

STEP 1

FIRST, you must state the specific belief you want to believe.

I know it sounds obvious, but a huge number of people don't believe in anything. You can ask them:

“Do you believe that you are able to lose 10 kg of extra weight?”

Their response: “I don’t know…Maybe…We’ll see…”
This is not faith.
These are just excuses.

STATE A SPECIFIC belief (belief).

It doesn't matter that you can't believe in him from the start. Just take the first step and SPEAK IT OUT.

Let's choose for the purposes of this article a belief that will not cause controversy, will not cause resentment in the reader of any creed and any political views.

Let's pick a positive belief that many people have a hard time believing.

“I will lose 10 kg of excess weight.” Great, the first step has been taken. We have created a certain belief.

Now, to all readers who have tried to lose weight and failed, I will say, “I can imagine what you are thinking.”

“I can’t lose 10 kg. I have experienced all the wonderful diets, drugs, supplements, exercises, etc. None of this helped me lose weight. I will always be complete."

If these thoughts are your automatic reaction, then there is nothing wrong with that. I am not forcing you to change this inner self-talk right now, because I know it is very difficult to do so.

Don't feel overwhelmed and powerless. Take it step by step. Now that you've MADE A SPECIFIC belief, what's the next step?

STEP 2

DRIVE this belief into your head for a LONG time. Beliefs (beliefs) are NOT formed overnight.

People didn't believe in political ideals or religious teachings all of a sudden, it didn't happen overnight.

This was due to the long-term absorption of information over a long period of time.

Many people acquired these beliefs at a young age from their parents, friends, religious leaders, teachers, mentors, and so on. They heard these statements at breakfast, watching TV, reading books, magazines, chatting with friends.

However, this time no one will hammer a new belief into your head.

YOU have created YOUR BELIEF, and now YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE to get it into YOUR HEAD.

It does not matter if your inner interlocutor denies your faith, belief. Constant hammering is sure to drive a nail into your self-talk. BEAT it into your head.

It is at this stage that 90% of people fail and conclude that the whole idea of ​​“if you believe, then you can achieve” is a complete %$%#@.

We live in a society where distractions run rampant: the Internet, SMS, cable TV, e-mail, cell phones, iPods, wireless Internet, and so on.

We are a spoiled generation. We live in an "instantaneous" society. We want results NOW. We have lost such dignity as patience.

Music, video, news, entertainment - everything is turned on with one button. We can contact anyone in the world by dialing 12 digits. We can find any source of information by clicking the mouse.

It's so easy to get caught up in the newest stuff and forget the importance of continually focusing on setting new beliefs.

We lose faith in ourselves when we don't see quick results from acquiring new beliefs. We have lost the whole idea of ​​sticking to something until the goal is achieved.

It doesn't matter how long it takes.

How can you avoid this trap?

1. Write down your beliefs every day.

This is one of the most powerful exercises for establishing new beliefs. I know this is very similar to affirmations, and for the most part it is. However, you may have had some experience with affirmations before and may not have achieved significant results.

2. Stick your new beliefs everywhere you can see them.

You can write your beliefs (beliefs) on pieces of paper or print them out and stick them everywhere: on the refrigerator, mirror, doors, computer, TV, in the bathroom - everywhere.

3. Every day, visualize your beliefs as having already been realized.

Your brain cannot tell the difference between what you see with your eyes and what you imagine. Do you know what that means?

In reality, nothing exists. By "nothing" I mean objects that you think are real: a pen, a computer, a piece of paper.

The reality is that you receive all information from the world around you through your 5 senses. Through the process that takes place in your brain, your experience (feelings) is created.

Reality lives only in your mind.

And that is why you can create your own reality. Therefore, create the reality that you have already achieved your goals by visualizing your beliefs, thereby helping you get them into your head.

You must set aside time for this every day.

If you do this on a case-by-case basis, you will not be able to plant a new belief. Rome was not built in a day. Masterpieces of art did not appear suddenly.

Everything of significant value did not appear overnight. Deep inside you know it's true. There are no shortcuts in life. Does this mean that it will take you years to establish a new belief?

If you consistently instill a new belief in yourself by following the steps outlined above, then you will find that your beliefs (belief) will actually manifest themselves faster than you expect.

STEP 3

Keep in touch with those who share your beliefs.

If you look back at how political and religious beliefs were formed, you will find that the process of strengthening these beliefs was immeasurably helped by constant contact with those who shared similar religious beliefs.

Out of habit, people do NOT communicate with those who do NOT share their beliefs.

Muslims don't associate with Jews. Atheists don't associate with Christians. Inveterate conservatives do not communicate with liberals.

Each group of people attracted like-minded people and formed a support group.(see also Success Team)

People who believe in the same thing are naturally drawn to each other. Rich to rich, poor to poor, middle class to middle class. This fact is undeniable.

As your beliefs begin to take root, you will find that you will naturally become attracted to people who share similar beliefs.

If you find yourself behaving in this way, then this is a very good sign that you are moving in the right direction. This means that your beliefs are starting to take root.

For example, if you constantly hammer into your head the belief that you are a great speaker, then you will naturally start looking for public speaking lessons, books, and tapes. You will buy relevant books and listen to cassettes. Find the nearest Toastmasters club in your area online and join. You will meet many people who share the same
the most convictions.

Making it a habit to associate with people with similar beliefs will further help you establish your faith.

Copyright © 2007 Dmitry Balezin

According to your faith it will be given to you. This famous biblical saying is known to all Orthodox Christians. But many people don't even know what they believe. That is, they believe in something, for example, in what the media tell us, write in newspapers, neighbors say, in what it seems to us, but definitely not in themselves. Almost all people lack confidence in themselves. Many simply do not believe in themselves for several reasons (more on that below). Therefore, the article is called - is it possible to believe in yourself and how to believe in yourself?

I will answer, to believe in yourself just like that is impossible. To believe - you need a reason that will make you do it. For example, you do not believe that a person can fly. If you see a flying person, at first you will be surprised, and for a very long time and loudly, and after a while this will be the norm for you. A fact is a fact and not figs to argue with him. You are not surprised when you drive a car. You just press the pedal, turn the steering wheel and swear while standing in a traffic jam. And once the creation of a car was a fantasy, I'm not talking about phones. Well, how is it that the voice is transmitted through the air? It's actually so difficult!

It's the same with faith. You need proof to believe in yourself To stop believing in yourself, you also need proof. Now you do not believe in yourself, because something happened in your life, because of which you stopped believing in yourself. Even worse, you no longer consider yourself worthy of what you want. Let's dig deeper and figure out what happened that you stopped reckoning with yourself.

Reasons for not believing in yourself

The first reason for disbelief in yourself is your environment., which constantly proves to you that you will not succeed. Your relatives are especially good at this work. How often have you told them that you want to do this and that, and they answered you: "You can't do it because..." and give a lot of arguments why you can't do it. They will start listing you examples of people who were much bigger than you, had better connections, were more gifted than you, and failed to do what you set out to do. So don't go where you don't belong - it's for the elite. Or they will start listing examples from their lives, stuffing you with their negative experiences, and, of course, you will have, and you will simply give up this idea. Nishtyak, isn't it?

The second reason is comparing yourself to others. There will always be someone who is better than you at what you want to excel at. For example, in sports. This karateka fights better than you, and he has more chances to become the champion of Russia than you. You constantly compare yourself to him, and your belief in becoming the champion of Russia passes to him. Worse, during sparring, he beats you up because you are sure that he is stronger than you. You start to give all the best not at 100% and lose to him. To believe in yourself you need a victory, to disbelieve in yourself you need a defeat. Everything is simple and clear!

The constant comparison of yourself with someone seems to take away faith. The person begins to think like: “How can I succeed in this business if Petrovich himself could not. So I don't even have to try.". These are the thoughts that take away our faith.

The third reason for disbelief in yourself is, of course, failures and failures. It is this reason that is the main reason why a person ceases to believe in himself. Some people say - "Just believe in yourself". This does not work. A person cannot believe in himself after forty-two. And how to do this, if life has proved to a person that nothing is given just like that, everywhere you need to work, have talent, connections and other attributes that help achieve success.

Many people simply stop trying after a series of failures. Why do you think? Because failure hurts, and pain is what a person tries to avoid. All people strive for joy, but sometimes they get bumps and hurt themselves. And with each failure, a person believes less and less in himself, and vice versa - with each victory, he believes more and more in his abilities.

By the way, we all experience failure. So do not think that you are the only poor thing in the whole world, unnoticed by God. Successful people make more mistakes than average people. It means that they experience more pain with disappointment. It looks like masochism. In the end, they win and.

How to believe in yourself?

Let's move on to the answer to this question. So how do you believe in yourself? I hope you have not forgotten the first reason for not believing in yourself. This is your environment, which tirelessly imposes its opinion on you. It's worth listening, but it's better to think with your own head. If you decide to do something, then you should not share it with those people who will make fun of you. Keep your plans a secret from such people, act in mode "stealth".

At the age of 19, my brother and I decided to open bulk ice cream. We told our ancestors about this, and they began to rub you know what. They said that all the places were already taken, it should have been done earlier, it's difficult, you need to know this, and so on. And they told us this many times. And we didn't listen. We began to act quietly. Five months after hard work (April 18, 2010) we opened. The ancestors didn't know about it. And when we told them, their eyes popped out of their heads. Mom even shook my hand. Here you do the same.

Do not take someone else's experience 100%. This is the experience of others. Just say - "Paid". You do not need this experience, you have your own life and you are a different person who grew up in a different time. What they had will not happen to you. Lightning does not strike in the same place. Remember this.

The second tip is the opposite. There are such rare individuals who will always support you in your endeavors. Again, this could be your parents or friends. If you are in any doubt, approach such a person, talk to him, and I am sure that after the conversation you will have full strength for action.

Now about comparing yourself to others. We must get rid of this forever. Comparing yourself to someone who is better than you will not help you believe in yourself. Of course, sometimes you need to compare, but not so often. Do you really think that all successful people are just the most gifted, smart, beautiful and talented in the world? Of course no. If Vasya is better than you in something, this does not mean that he will succeed in his business. Maybe he does not have such patience and efficiency as you do? These are the most necessary qualities for success in any business, including self-discipline. In addition, you can get along well with people, but Vasya cannot. Then they will help you with something, but they won’t help Vasya because he is such a dumbass.

Let's talk about failures. Everyone has them. And here it is worth not to go in cycles in them. Instead of thinking about failure, look for an opportunity that will help you achieve your goal. Thinking about failure is the brake, looking for opportunities is the gas. What pedal are you pressing? A person loses faith when he thinks about failures, and gains when he thinks about victories. Most of us think about failures, because failures cause strong negative emotions - disappointment, despair, despondency. Joy is not so strong, it passes quickly. But those negative emotions do not dissolve so quickly. And of course, it's hard to act when there are such bad memories in your head.

For example, the tenth girl has already refused to go on a date with you. Of course, it will be very difficult to make such an offer for the eleventh time. You will be sure that you will be denied. But then why be afraid! And yet, there will definitely be someone who will agree to go on a date with you. Yes, even if forty-third, there will still be (if you change tactics).

Therefore, in order not to lose faith in yourself - do not think about failures, think about new opportunities. New opportunities promise you victory, thinking about failures will not budge you.

How to believe in yourself

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The main way to help is communication. A frank conversation allows you to understand the state of mind of a person, to figure out what exactly prevents him from fulfilling his dream. It is important to find the most comfortable environment for the interlocutor so that he can open up. One is closer to conversations in private, it is easier for others to discuss everything during the game, others talk about sore points in the form of a joke.

COMMON GOALS OR DESIRES

Try to identify common goals and objectives and unite to achieve them. This will become support, because it is easier to move along the intended path together. This way you will help the person to be confident in their abilities.

ANALYSIS OF THE ENVIRONMENT OF A CLOSE PERSON

The environment strongly influences us: it can both give strength and nourish our self-esteem, and exactly the opposite. Focus on finding like-minded people. The more people with an active life position in the company who realize their dreams, broadcast the installation for success, the higher the chances of believing in themselves and achieving a lot.

TIME TOGETHER

Make the most of your time: watch inspiring movies, read books, do creative work together. This provides an opportunity for indirect influence, you push a person in the right direction, help to grow faith in yourself. Communication sets the stage for conversations.

PRAISE AND ENHANCEMENT

Failures and disapproval of parents form self-doubt. To help a person get rid of thoughts of his own failure, praise and encouragement are necessary. No need to flatter or praise just like that. Give value to what the person does.

Instead of “It’s good that you finally nailed this shelf. Thanks!" say: “It’s good that you nailed the shelf: we don’t need to spend money on the master and wait for him to come!”

ADVANCE TO THE DREAM STEP BY STEP

If the goal seems hard to reach, then self-disappointment sets in even before the person takes the first step. He doesn't know where to start. You need to help your loved one break down a big goal into small, manageable tasks that will move him towards his dream step by step.

For example, your friend wants to lose 20 kg in six months. The stages on the way to the goal can be as follows: find a nutritionist and make a menu, sign up for a gym and pick up a set of workouts, start preparing healthy meals.

Sometimes people give up and begin to doubt their strengths and capabilities. The reasons for such changes are excessive reflection, lack of support from others, low self-esteem of a person. You can cope with your own insecurities and learn to believe in yourself, start living without looking back at others, thanks to self-training. A few simple rules will help you love yourself and gain confidence in the future.

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When hands go down

Doubts in one's own abilities make one give up and often lead to prolonged depression. There are situations that can unsettle for a long time, have an impact not only on the psychological, but also on the physical state.

1. 1. Death of a loved one. Sudden grief causes intense stress, leading to feelings of insecurity and a sense of emptiness. The pain of loss leads to physical weakness and malaise, which can develop into serious neurological disorders and illnesses.
2. 2. Job loss. A person who has lost his job against his will will experience the whole range of negative emotions. His hands drop, there is a feeling of uselessness, falling out of the rhythm of life. After being fired, it is not easy to find the strength in yourself to persistently look for a new job, but it must be done.
3. 3. Betrayal. After the betrayal of a husband or wife, the spouse feels betrayed and devastated. Change is always hard to bear. Deception of a spouse whom a person completely trusted, fear of feeling pain again can cause distrust in other people and lead to complete removal from them.
4. 4. Parting. After a divorce and family disagreements, a difficult period comes when a person realizes that he needs to move on, and there is no more support. Not everyone manages to find the strength to survive this time with dignity. Fear of change leads to a feeling of insecurity, unwillingness to move on.
5. 5. Black stripe. A series of failures in sports, a favorite business, when no one else believes in a person’s achievements, can make you disappointed in yourself and your own abilities. An occupation that gave meaning to life, gave energy, becomes an uninteresting burden, and you want to give it up.

How to stop having bad thoughts

How to believe in yourself again?

To help you cope with your feelings of worthlessness, you need to adhere to a few rules daily and do not deviate from them even a step.

1. 1. Take action. To achieve any goal, specific steps must be taken. It is not worth waiting for a miracle from fate without doing anything: it will not come. To find a good job, you need to look for it every day. To lose weight, you need to play sports and not shirk, referring to malaise and employment. To be loved, you need to surround your loved one with attention and care. If you make it a rule to act daily in order to achieve your goal, life will begin to change for the better very soon.
2. 2. Fight fear. Everyone is afraid of something: condemnation, ridicule, sidelong glances. A healthy indifference to the opinions and gossip of others will help overcome the fear of failure.

Psychologists have found that people are more concerned with their own problems than with the success or failure of others.

1. 3. Believe in yourself. You need to remember about the uniqueness of your own personality. Even if other people don't notice. Having believed in one's own strength, a person will receive an invaluable source of energy for a full life.
2. 4. Accept your mistakes. All people make mistakes. If you constantly renounce your own mistakes and be afraid to make them, you will not succeed. Mistakes are as much a part of our life as achievements. Refusing one, a person does not receive the other.
3. 5. Keep a diary. It is necessary to make it a rule in the evening to write about all the actions performed during the day. Have all the things that were planned been done? What emotions prevailed that day and why? Keeping a diary will help you learn the necessary lessons and draw the right conclusions.

To cope with the consequences of stress, you need to seek help from a psychologist or neurologist. Good rest and healthy sleep will help get rid of experiences as soon as possible.

You should not withdraw into yourself and focus on your suffering - this will lead to a loss of interest in life, an erroneous conclusion that no one believes or understands a person in trouble. Having got rid of the consequences of the blows of fate, you need to continue to communicate with people and follow the recommendations that will help you gain strength and truly believe in yourself.

Help another

To help a person who is insecure about his actions, you need to give him the opportunity to believe in himself.