Don't like the new job. Reasons for bad mood
In fact, few of us can boast that the work gives him pleasure. Falling in love with her is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. Most people live simply by inertia, not striving for anything new and not trying to discover some amazing peaks and talents in themselves. Being “like everyone else” is convenient and familiar: you don’t need to strain yourself unnecessarily and make significant efforts to implement your plans, endure significant inconvenience, go through tangible difficulties. Psychologists note that many people daily suffer from unloved work. They have to endure the bad mood of the boss, unbearable working conditions. Often gossip of colleagues, conflict situations and the need to get up at dawn are mixed in here. It is not always necessary to immediately rush to look for a new place of employment. Sometimes you need to think for a while, comprehend what is happening, and only then take concrete actions. Otherwise, you can get yourself into big trouble, which will take a long time to deal with.
If you don’t like the work, you definitely need to understand the situation, and not silently endure it, hoping for a miracle. You should resort to changing activities only when you are confident in yourself and are ready to go to the end in order to overcome the difficulties that arise. Below are effective tips from a psychologist to help you understand what to pay close attention to in resolving this issue.
Analysis of the situation
He will help to understand the existing problem, although he will not tell you how to love what you devote a lot of time to. Psychologists note the need to approach your own life as frankly as possible and try to understand yourself. Try to honestly answer yourself the following questions: what makes you so sad, sad at work? Maybe there are no prospects for professional growth and development? Or haunted by a small salary? In some cases, there is a relationship problem with colleagues. If you could not join a new team, then it will be very difficult to work. In professional life, employees are very dependent on each other and on superiors. Understanding yourself is very important. After all, otherwise you will not be able to realize what to start from and where to look for a solution. Falling in love with routine work is not easy. You need to understand what you want in the end.
No need to be ashamed of your material problems. Everyone, to the extent possible, should think about himself, about how to feel as comfortable and easy as possible. No one will offer you to solve existing problems in one fell swoop and will not take responsibility for your actions.
Find an interesting hobby
Probably, no one will argue with the fact that a hobby can prolong a person's life, bring a new special meaning to it. Psychologists have found that rainbow fullness appears when a person knows where to draw inspiration and positive from. Unfortunately, not all people know how to address the origins of their individuality. This will not help you fall in love with a hated job, but you will have a kind of outlet that will give you strength and confidence. Psychologists advise to devote more time to yourself instead of trying to please others. An interesting hobby will help you save energy after a hard day's work and not scatter it in vain.
What can you do? Anything to make your soul happy. Drawing, writing stories, reading interesting literature or embroidery. In addition, an interesting business will help motivate yourself for further victories and achievements. Man, in essence, is able to achieve whatever he wants.
Sports
Movement is life. Sport not only develops physically, but also allows you to develop character. Walking in the fresh air, playing basketball or volleyball are very useful. Riding a bike or skating will bring a lot of positive emotions, especially if it gives you pleasure. Sports activities give positive energy, namely, it needs to be saved and increased when things at work are categorically not encouraging. Falling in love with work that does not bring pleasure is not an easy task. It will take a lot of strength and patience, but sports can help. It is known that by resorting to physical activity, people manage to cope with stress and overcome feelings of hopelessness. Psychologists advise turning to sports as often as possible in order to overcome the bad mood resulting from gray and monotonous everyday life every day.
Plans for the future
To make it easier for you to keep working, you need to always have an end goal in front of you. How do you see the result of your efforts? Try to determine this in advance so that you can move forward in a planned way and not get upset because of an unsatisfactory position at work. For example, if you tell yourself that I don't like my job, then it means that you should look for any opportunities today that will help correct the situation. The last thing you need to do is try to immediately look for another type of employment, especially since a new job will not always meet your expectations. When you have a very clear and understandable goal in front of your eyes, it remains only to go towards it in small steps every day. It is worth to suffer some nuances in the workplace, if it is necessary for your future. Who knows how the future will turn out? Maybe your colleagues and bosses will come in handy more than once. Psychologists recommend not breaking off business relationships, they may still come in handy someday.
Work environment
If you cannot fall in love with what you have to do every day, try to diversify your gray everyday life as much as possible. You can change your office. If you don’t have it, then at least put things differently on your desktop, arrange all the necessary accessories in a way that is convenient for you. The advice of a psychologist will help you decide in this difficult but important matter. To feel as comfortable as possible, organize everything so that you feel good and comfortable in the first place. Sometimes interesting objects help to cope with the monotony and feeling of oppression. Bright, lively atmosphere will bring new emotions. Sometimes you can fall in love with your work if you try to see only positive aspects in it.
Thus, every problem has its own solution. To make the working day at least minimally comfortable, you just need to learn to look positively at familiar things, not to wind yourself up in vain.
It doesn't matter where you spend 8 hours of your working time: in the chair of the head of your own company, in the office, performing official duties, or somewhere else, you should enjoy what you do.
Before dedicating it to a particular profession, make sure you really like it.
How to know for sure? Here is a list of key signs that you have made the right choice.
1. Time flies fast. You are, as it were, in a state of flux.
Flow can be compared to a transcendental state where time is of no importance. Worries and problems seem to disappear. This is possible if you are doing something really pleasant, for example, being around someone you care about.
The same thing happens when you do the work you love. Time flows imperceptibly. You look out the window and note with surprise that the sun has long since set, and it seemed to you that you had recently come to work.
2. You know you're doing something important. This gives you a feeling of deep satisfaction.
People feel happy not only when they communicate with their own kind, but also when they are engaged in serious business. It is not necessary to be in search of a cure for a deadly disease. Everything is much easier. Carpenter's products are no less necessary. It doesn't matter what kind of work you do. The main thing is to feel a sense of satisfaction that you are useful. Give others unique ideas, share your abilities and use your talents for good. You will be happy not just for one day, but for the rest of your life.
3. You wake up happy in the morning.
If you don't feel like getting out of your comfortable bed, something is probably wrong. Of course, everyone has the right to a day off. But if every morning the thought of work makes you longing, it's time to change your life.
Favorite profession absorbs and stimulates. For the sake of solving the problem, you should want to move mountains. A dull and unpleasant occupation does not bring pleasure and drives into depression.
4. Your colleagues and leaders are a real team united by a common cause.
If the people at work do more than formally perform their duties, you work for a good company. Consider that you are an important part of the team, whose members are always ready to help you, because together you are doing something meaningful. You may not be the main boss who gives important instructions, but you are confident in what you are doing, have the right skills that you willingly use to achieve the goal.
5. You don't complain.
Many people complain about their work:
- "Getting up too early."
- "Ride too far."
- "I don't like my colleagues."
- “I hate what I do.”
If you are constantly unhappy, you have 2 ways to solve the problem:
First. Change your mentality. Imagine that you have no job and no money to pay bills, buy food and clothes. Perhaps your profession is not so bad, and you have enough money to provide yourself with everything you need.
Even the work you love is never perfect. Large workloads or annoying errands are not uncommon. But this is nothing compared to the pleasure that you get from what you do.
6. You are not afraid of difficulties.
Sometimes you have to start all over. An artist can throw away a finished portrait, and an engineer, dissatisfied with the project, returns to the drawing board and calculations to redo everything.
If you love your job, you are not bothered by such difficulties because you enjoy overcoming obstacles. Your goal is to achieve the perfect result.
7. You talk about work with enthusiasm.
When asked what your job is, your eyes light up. You can't stop talking about what you're doing. This is a sure sign that you are in love with your profession and want everyone to know about it.
8. Work is an organic extension of your personality.
You continue to think about your duties and affairs, even when the working day is long over and do not experience negative emotions. Ideal work does not irritate and does not violate inner harmony. You are happy to devote extra time to solving tasks. The profession allows you to express yourself.
9. You are interested in something that is not directly related to your job functions.
When you really enjoy a job, you tend to learn everything about your company or the activities of related departments to which you are not directly related. You are interested in this because you want to be aware of everything that is happening.
10. At the end of the day, you feel tired but satisfied.
You can experience a pleasant feeling of tiredness at the end of a fruitful working day, or be exhausted from the fact that you had to perform tedious and meaningless duties, and only willpower did not let you explode.
If you are happy, satisfied, confident that you are taking part in the creation of something important, then you are in the right place.
Career prospects, understanding colleagues, excellent salary, convenient location - you do not have a job, but a dream. But as soon as you enter the office, the mood plummets. What could be wrong?
The color of the walls, the proximity of colleagues, the noise level, the size of the office - all these seemingly imperceptible nuances can affect the level of professionalism and even lead to neurosis, psychologists say. Let's try to figure out what is important for us in the workspace and why these little things are so important.
BETTER IN CHOIR?
Alena (30) lasted only two weeks at her new job. The fact is that she had to work in a huge open space, where about a hundred people were sitting at the same time. Accustomed to offices designed for four or five employees, the girl experienced a real panic in a new place. “Neighbors were constantly shouting, stealing stationery from my table,” she recalls. - To hold a meeting, I had to sign up for a meeting room, and for important calls, I even went outside. One day I came back and found a puddle of coffee on my table - my colleagues never admitted who did it. As a result, Alena quit and now she always checks with employers the conditions in which she is offered to work.Candidate of Psychological Sciences, business coach Lyudmila Gorodnicheva explains: the perception of space depends on the energy that people fill it with. “Everyone brings their own mood to the office microworld, creates a similar environment around them. The more people with negative energy, the harder it will be in it,” she said.
But a lot depends on the type of person. “People perceive reality differently: extroverts are focused on capturing territory, a constant influx of information, so open space is the best option for them. They can observe their colleagues, communicate, and this only increases their efficiency,” says Elizaveta Levina, a consultant psychologist. - Introverts, on the contrary, receive information from within, therefore they are focused on their own, internal, space and protecting it from external encroachments. The workplace for them is part of this territory, as well as tools and personal belongings.
If a person is uncomfortable in an open space, care must be taken to ensure that he can control the zone from where the potential "danger" comes from. Talk, for example, with your closest colleagues: perhaps they will help create more comfortable conditions. Explain the reasons for the discomfort, say that the change will positively affect the work, contribute to greater productivity.
ENEMY BEHIND
Katerina (26) breathed a sigh of relief when the tables in her office were rearranged. Before that, the girl was sitting right in front of the workplace of the creative director. “It seemed to me that he literally breathes mein the back. It was very uncomfortable,” she says.
Psychologists support Katerina: the presence of someone behind our back turns on self-defense mechanisms in us, this “someone” is initially perceived as an enemy. “A man behind his back means danger. Even if this is your girlfriend, there will be tension, although not strong. It's in our genetic memory. If a leader or someone with an evaluation function sits behind him, this can lead to neurosis, ”says Lyudmila Gorodnicheva.
The back is an area that is technically more difficult for us to control, so it is especially important that it be “covered”. It is bad if the table is with its back to the door. A study conducted at the University of Michigan showed that men in leadership positions are not able to maintain a position with their backs to the door for a long time and are ready to rearrange furniture even in a meeting room. Anna Dadeko, director of the Tochka Otschata Career Counseling Center, believes that emotionally the door can be perceived as a source of potential danger: “When a person sees the entrance to the premises, there is a feeling that he controls the threat.”
The best solution is to really rearrange the tables or separate the workplace with a partition, since the object behind your back will always cause stress and distract some of the attention.
MUSICAL PAUSE
But there are times when partitions do not help. For example, if colleagues make noise or turn on music, as happens in the creative agency where Liana works (25). “We have a small cheerful team, everyone is creative and sociable,” says the girl. - There is no strict schedule - the main thing is that the work is done. But it can be difficult to focus on it: pop music is constantly playing in the office. In this way, management wants to demonstrate an informal approach to customers and motivate employees.” But as a result of such musical accompaniment of the workflow, problems often arise. Liana admits that from time to time she just sits and listens to songs, forgetting about the matter. Lyudmila Gorodnicheva considers such methods of motivation to be a manifestation of selfishness on the part of management. “When this kind of music is played, perception is dispersed. If it is turned on at all, it should be neutral and quiet - for example, classical or light jazz, ”the specialist believes.American music therapist Kimberly Cena Moore has reviewed all the research on the impact of music on productivity over the past fifty years. The results were quite inconsistent: musical accompaniment helped those who perform repetitive monotonous actions at work, did not affect those who work with people, and interfered with those who were engaged in calculations or creativity. Based on these studies and her own experience, the therapist concluded: music for work can be light, quiet, without words, with obligatory breaks in sound. “The creative process is spontaneous, diverse, it has a very complex rhythm, different phases. Musical accompaniment creates an external rhythm that may not coincide with the internal rhythm of a person, and the creative process simply breaks down, ”says Elizaveta Levina. Therefore, in Liana's office, half of the employees work in headphones.
But in addition to dividing into introverts and extroverts, psychologists classify us into visuals, auditory, digital and kinesthetic - according to the leading channels of information perception. Some perceive information better visually, others - by ear, others - in a logical way, and others - through touch. Naturally, we react more sharply to the aggressiveness of information in each of our key areas. For example, auditory people painfully perceive "extra" sounds. It is difficult for such people to be in noisy rooms and it is difficult to concentrate when there are several sources of sound. Anna Dadeko recommends using headphones in this case, which will sound an individual selection of background music that does not cause discomfort.
BATTLE AT THE BORDER
Inna (27) regularly clashes with colleagues. The reason for the quarrels was the desktop - common for the girl and three other employees. Or rather, the cleanliness of this table. Inna keeps her place in perfect order. “It helps me focus on work and not be distracted by anything,” she says. - But sometimes leaflets, folders get to me from the places of colleagues ...I consider this a cause for conflict - I hate the mess. Employees, according to the girl, consider her unbalanced and too principled.
“We are talking about building borders: if it seems that your territory is being attacked, you need to find out this situation,” Elizaveta Levina believes. Another thing is that this should be done in a calm manner, in the least conflicting way. But one can only “fight” for one’s own territory – Inna’s reputation as an excessively principled person was created because she not only defends borders, but also teaches her colleagues how they should exist within their own borders. This cannot but cause them discomfort. However, Lyudmila Gorodnicheva considers such behavior to be quite appropriate for the situation - after all, the “fight” is for personal space. Close people can approach us at a distance of 30-40 cm, those with whom we just met - no closer than a meter. And for colleagues, it is important that a protective distance of 70–80 cm is maintained. If it is not enough, a feeling of discomfort appears and, as a result, aggression occurs. In this case, such offensive activity is the result of hopelessness, the inability to cope with the violation of borders in a different way. When a conflict arises, the opposing sides try to interact as little as possible with each other - in this way personal boundaries are not violated. But if you do not seek to toughen relations with colleagues, but prefer to coexist peacefully with them, use such a proven tool as humor. Put conditional comic boundaries between your territories: for example, funny signs “Private property” or “Do not disturb from 10 to 18”.
BAD IF GOOD
Researchers at the University of California at Berkeley conducted an extensive study,during which we studied everything that affects us inside an office building. The conclusions seem surprising and obvious at the same time: the most important for us are basic household needs. Clean bathrooms, parking space, well-organized meals, cleanliness of the room, a place where you can relax and recover, nice design of furniture and the office space itself. The attention of the employer to these positions is enough to significantly reduce the level of stress in the office. But the owner of the premises creates everyday comfort, and each person contributes what he lacks for a feeling of happiness. We create the space around ourselves and are responsible for how comfortable it will be for us.
True, experts believe that sometimes it is simply impossible to avoid problems with the perception of the working area. The fact is that of the many factors that concern us when looking for a job, the office does not occupy the most significant position, so later this topic can become problematic. To put it simply, you can't foresee everything at once, and if the other conditions are fully satisfied, the chances that the workspace will raise questions increase. The location of the tables, the distance from colleagues, the cold from the air conditioners become such important factors precisely because everything else is quite up to our expectations. A person tends to notice rather what annoys, something that satisfies. So, it makes sense to still focus on the pluses that work gives us - especially if it is not in our power to significantly change something.
color therapy
The psychological climate in the team is significantly affected by the color scheme of the office space.If the office is located on the sunny side, it is advisable to decorate it in cold light colors. If the windows of the room are on the shady side, warm shades should be added to the interior.
A room painted in any pure, saturated color acts depressingly. For employees who are intensively engaged in mental work, the coloring of walls and furniture should help to focus and not tire the eyes. Soothing, but not monotonous colors are suitable: green, gray.
Aggressive colors in interior items (for example, red phones and pens) can cause irritability for no reason.
Feeling at home
The most progressive scheme for building corporate interiors is the home office style (“domesticated office”). It is characterized by the maximum approximation of the working environment to home. This is achieved through the selection of furniture in warm colors and soft shapes, soothing finishes for the eye. The design often includes a mini-kitchen for each employee, the required number of drawers for his personal belongings, shelves for family photos and flowers. Thus, the atmosphere of the workplace is humanized, becomes more friendly to a person, helping to reduce stress or avoid it altogether.TEXT: Lana Volokhova
Interestingly, is it only in Russian that the word “work” is formed from the word “slave”, and the word “dismissal” from the word “freedom”?
Why do we go to work? You may have asked yourself this question more than once. Why do you have to do what you don't want to? Why can't you do what you want? How to make sure that work brings both prosperity and joy, and does not take up all your free time? Man is born for creativity and creation of endless love and happiness. But the social environment, by its influence, creates such confusion in his mind that he ceases to distinguish work from conscious creativity and creation.
The word “work” contains the root “slave”, and work implies that a person does not create and creates, but sells himself into slavery for a certain time. Therefore, no matter how good working conditions are, the worker will never miss the opportunity to express his dissatisfaction with his employer and work in general.
Many are sure that work is necessary for material security. But over the past century, mankind has automated and mechanized production, learned to use the energy of natural resources, mastered the energy of the atom, created artificial intelligence, and much more. With such an increase in opportunities, an enormous amount of time and labor resources would have to be released, and a person would have to spend no more than an hour a day on the work necessary for life support. But for some reason, the working day remained eight-hour.
It begs a lot of questions. Why do we spend so much time at work? Who do we work for the other seven hours? Why, instead of creating and creating our own life, do we sell our own labor? Why don't we build our lives in such a way as to be free and not work for someone else? Why do we sell our free time ourselves by making a deal, and then express dissatisfaction that work takes all the time, forces and we are not paid enough? And what will we do if there is free time with this way of thinking? - Watch TV, play computer, go shopping, clubs and look for entertainment?
The reason for all these questions lies in the fact that many people do not want to take responsibility for their lives, shifting it to someone who willingly "helps" them in this. This leads to the fact that instead of creating and creating their own life, people sell their labor and ensure their existence. The life of such people fits into a simple scheme: to be born, get an education, find a prestigious job, buy a house, a car, a dacha, give birth and raise children, sometimes go on vacation, grow old and die. It remains to be wondered how they manage not to go crazy in such an "exciting" pastime, which is difficult to call life, although people call it that.
Think about it: a person spends an average of 9 hours a day on work, including a lunch break, 2-3 hours on the way to work, 2 hours on various fees and putting himself in order after work. And if we add housework, it turns out that a person does not have time not only for development and training, but also for normal sleep. So for a whole week people are spinning like a squirrel in a wheel, and on weekends they make devastating raids on shops like the Mongol-Tatars on Ancient Russia.
The word "work" according to the Complete Church Slavonic Dictionary, 30,000 words, compiler Priest Master Grigory Dyachenko, 1899
From this vicious circle there is two exits. The first is to quit everything, which for many is almost impossible. The second is to make your work conscious, turn it into joy and creation, become a master of your craft, work without stress for your own pleasure and receive enough income to live in abundance and not worry about the future.
Each of you can become a master - the owner and creator of your life. To become a master, you need to learn and consciously apply the knowledge gained in the work. Find a job you like, master it to perfection, and work will bring you only joy and satisfaction. Mastery gives a person the opportunity to control his working time in accordance with the state of mind and preferred lifestyle. In other words, "we work as much as we want, where and when we want."
What to do if you don't like the job?
Do you know the true motivation that makes you sell your work and almost all your free time?
Adhering to existing beliefs, rules and norms of behavior in society, unconsciously identifying with generally accepted stereotypes, you begin to accept them as a guide in life. One of these stereotypes is the idea that a person must earn a lot in order to spend the earned and accumulated money later.
The social environment creates the belief that the more money there is, the more pleasure you can get. But to provide a person with the necessities, so much money is not needed, and much less is required than the average person earns. A person is able to receive true pleasure from life itself and all its manifestations. And the “pleasures” that society produces and offers are invented and destructive. Creating the illusion of joy, well-being, fulfillment of desires, they fetter a person like shackles and lead him to hard labor, forcing him to work all his free time.
Please note that most of the goods and services imposed on you by the method of influencing your subconscious through the media are not vital. All this is needed only in order to fulfill your desires or provide pleasure for a certain fee.
Take, for example, a vacation at sea. The rest itself is quite inexpensive, but at the same time society imposes on you a service that is not needed at all in order to sunbathe in the sun and swim in the sea. And thinking that you are paying for a vacation at sea, you are paying for this service the money for which many of you are forced to work every day from morning to evening. And how much do you have to work for a waiter in a restaurant to serve you? And this trend is manifested in everything: in food, in clothes, in everyday life.
What makes you live such a life? Is it the conviction that you are no worse than others? Is this your belief? And isn't this belief itself a social ploy?
The very belief “I am worse than others” may mean striving to be better. But if you rent an expensive hotel, drive an expensive car, drink expensive wine, does that make you any better? And then the society did its best, creating the belief that all the most expensive things are for the best. But is it possible to become better than you are?
You already are and cannot be better or worse. The desire to become better, to live better is an internal hidden belief that you are worse, which is an idea imposed on you by society so that you really believe in it and strive to earn more. But it's a trap! After all, you are already the way you are, and from the fact that you earn more and acquire more goods and services, you will not be able to become better.
In order not to fall into such traps, do not take other people's beliefs for granted, do not believe what is happening in your identified mind. Trust only your inner emotional guide. Watch carefully what is happening around you, what is happening in you. Distinguish the present - that which is happening here and now, from the invented, created by your imagination from the ideas and beliefs that society so kindly provides you with in unlimited quantities, inviting you to a tempting land of wish fulfillment only to make you work from morning to evenings.